“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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My week from Online dating apps - LRs

Lotus Effect

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What’s your “ rules” to keep it all going?
I gotta say, all the texting comms is a head melt tbh. Chicks love to communicate hey. FML.
All help appreciated CJ
Regarding this

I keep texting to a minimal
Only to establish logistics

if you fall into the trap of overly conversing thru text you lose, because you enter their world

you might get some kinky texts and prolong it but don’t be blindsided by that

over texting is a feminine trait

doesn’t mean that your text game shouldn’t be good. Much on the opposite. It should be flawless.

but always minimalwith the aim of raising your unpredictability, mystery and face to face goal oriented

your words are few and sharp
She sent 10 words you send 7

she sent 2 you send one

it is always about who is more invested

think what how Clint Eastwood or James Bond would reply to chicks text? Have you? That’s your mindset

say some mysterious ****. Get her a bit wet. Set the date. And vanish. You have a busy life and you have no time to reply to texts (even if you don’t have a busy life - they don’t know that)

you can find some more info on this

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...w-do-you-keepem-spinning.282667/#post-3126820
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Bro

she is obviously jealous of her sister

you asked for a pic of her and her sister

triggered the sister jealousy

she didn’t reply

that’s it

everything else is your hamster

She’s not prego

follow your own advice

go fvck other chicks
yeah mate, it’s pretty obvs hey.
I had forgotten that interaction after the last bang. By the time I’d sent that pic request. Numbnuts me.
She’ll get over it but.
I text her a day and a half later after 2 days of radio silence .. 2 lil texts…

“Heya
Hope ur feeling better and came good x”
&
“Let me know when ur free next …”

that’s it now, ill
Leave it up to her.
I reckon she shared the bang stories w her sister in her sisters visit down, her sis had a judgemental word in her ear during that time, (b1tches be talkin) … and then 2 days later I ask for a pic mindlessly of the 2 of them,

Big turn-off obvs.

Ah well….
The chemistry was insane. But that’s it now.
Maybe she’ll get high and horny in a few weeks and send me the Bat-Signal, lol, I’ll be back there in a heartbeat!

meanwhile, yep, keep on truckin..
girl 3 is setting up a 3-way w me and another dude next week.., heh heh heh. Woo Woo!
 
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Anyways.
Some of y’all dudes round here seem to think CJ ain’t even got no’ Game’, which has fvcked me off tbh..
So I said fvckit…. I’ll post some ‘receipts’ for the hater mo-fos. Prove myself

here we go
Don’t doxx me …

girl 2 -the Star / Asian w the Lucy Lee body…
Sex was off the planet .ohhhh yeahhhh.
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girl 3 the older super kinky b1tch that wants threesomes .mmmm kinkayyy
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And girl 1 who’s down the coast and had to cut loose,
(Sex was pretty good , but she has some issues tbh anyways)
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So there ya go .in yo face and.Suck it, Haters !! :p:D:rofl:

Lmao….
 
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Regarding this

I keep texting to a minimal
Only to establish logistics

if you fall into the trap of overly conversing thru text you lose, because you enter their world

you might get some kinky texts and prolong it but don’t be blindsided by that

over texting is a feminine trait

doesn’t mean that your text game shouldn’t be good. Much on the opposite. It should be flawless.

but always minimalwith the aim of raising your unpredictability, mystery and face to face goal oriented

your words are few and sharp
She sent 10 words you send 7

she sent 2 you send one

it is always about who is more invested

think what how Clint Eastwood or James Bond would reply to chicks text? Have you? That’s your mindset

say some mysterious ****. Get her a bit wet. Set the date. And vanish. You have a busy life and you have no time to reply to texts (even if you don’t have a busy life - they don’t know that)

you can find some more info on this

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...w-do-you-keepem-spinning.282667/#post-3126820
Cheers for all of this.

Yknow irs pretty funny.
For me - I text chicks like a chick (!) lol
I use heaps of chick lingo. Etc and get v cutesy.
but also mix in total sleaze . Borderline creep and lotsa sexual stuff.

So in my mind - it sets up a vibe like those teen porno flicks. Where the chick is in rainbow socks in a room full of pink cutesy fluffy pillows n sh1t,

…then proceeds to get her brains fvcked out by a big d1ck.

Idk…it sure works for me .

maybe it’s my own style .. or a different style .or maybe I could do it better.. I’ll have a switch up and try.

cos yep for sure also it’s a heap of comms’ing.h
 

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Cheers for all of this.

Yknow irs pretty funny.
For me - I text chicks like a chick (!) lol
I use heaps of chick lingo. Etc and get v cutesy.
but also mix in total sleaze . Borderline creep and lotsa sexual stuff.

So in my mind - it sets up a vibe like those teen porno flicks. Where the chick is in rainbow socks in a room full of pink cutesy fluffy pillows n sh1t,

…then proceeds to get her brains fvcked out by a big d1ck.

Idk…it sure works for me .

maybe it’s my own style .. or a different style .or maybe I could do it better.. I’ll have a switch up and try.

cos yep for sure also it’s a heap of comms’ing.h
The talking like a chick bit creates rapport, the sexual stuff creates male/female duality
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The talking like a chick bit creates rapport, the sexual stuff creates male/female duality
yeah I reckon it’s a winner combo.( for me as my type /persona guy) I’m not super masc looking. W muscles efc. My bio pic is now an Ai’d shot of me .. but it’s added bulk somehow, I’m leaner.
 

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Cheers for all of this.

Yknow irs pretty funny.
For me - I text chicks like a chick (!) lol
I use heaps of chick lingo. Etc and get v cutesy.
but also mix in total sleaze . Borderline creep and lotsa sexual stuff.

So in my mind - it sets up a vibe like those teen porno flicks. Where the chick is in rainbow socks in a room full of pink cutesy fluffy pillows n sh1t,

…then proceeds to get her brains fvcked out by a big d1ck.

Idk…it sure works for me .

maybe it’s my own style .. or a different style .or maybe I could do it better.. I’ll have a switch up and try.

cos yep for sure also it’s a heap of comms’ing.h
I used to be like that.
I haven’t said it’s bad

as I’ve said it can lead to lots of kinky stuff and lots of aubergine tongue water drop emojis

You as a player have to have that in your belt no doubt

but mastery over time made me more concise efficient and mysterious

the chick can’t know what are you up to

and then the hamster start spinning

if you have some good dhv to back it up, she will usually put you in the boss position, tends to leave them in a very submissive to daddy position

also, your question was on how to handle the multiple plates

and that’s the answer

if you keep texting like a crazy person you will get drained and exhausted of over texting and you won’t be able to handle in the mid run

you posed your question with this initial premise by the way

that the chicks talk a lot and it gets overwhelming, and how could you ha

so my point is on how for you to handle that

I get you are getting this rush of new feelings and we can definitely see on the way you post your adventures

keep doing that

And don’t take this as an offense, because I really like you and your stories, but don’t get lost on showing off, especially when you posed something as a problem to be dealt with

TLDR
I understand your style of texting
There’s validity to that
On to handling lots of active plates
Less is more
It will prolong their shelf life
It will be healthier for your mental wellbeing
 

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I used to be like that.
I haven’t said it’s bad

as I’ve said it can lead to lots of kinky stuff and lots of aubergine tongue water drop emojis

You as a player have to have that in your belt no doubt

but mastery over time made me more concise efficient and mysterious

the chick can’t know what are you up to

and then the hamster start spinning

if you have some good dhv to back it up, she will usually put you in the boss position, tends to leave them in a very submissive to daddy position

also, your question was on how to handle the multiple plates

and that’s the answer

if you keep texting like a crazy person you will get drained and exhausted of over texting and you won’t be able to handle in the mid run

you posed your question with this initial premise by the way

that the chicks talk a lot and it gets overwhelming, and how could you ha

so my point is on how for you to handle that

I get you are getting this rush of new feelings and we can definitely see on the way you post your adventures

keep doing that

And don’t take this as an offense, because I really like you and your stories, but don’t get lost on showing off, especially when you posed something as a problem to be dealt with

TLDR
I understand your style of texting
There’s validity to that
On to handling lots of active plates
Less is more
It will prolong their shelf life
It will be healthier for your mental wellbeing
yeah Lotus no offence taken.
My posts are more me thibking out loud tbh.
And comparing what I currently do, quizzing what don’t work..pros and cons.
And is now my journal of thoughts really tbh.

What u posted makes sense to be the way then
and I ought to switch.
It definitely is exhausting the comms. And the emoji s (lol @ that one VG )
Then the chicks start thibking “oh he’s open” start getting their hooks into the mind cracks and tryna open em up. Like the curious cats they are.
Dem sneaky detective b1tches.

Like my girl 3 tonite on the phone
“Tell me about your ex and youre breakup .. oh I’m just curious… “ and then scratching and digging..”but why this , why that, what lead up to that blah blah” doing a total stalk on me. Fvck off.

I shut her down pretty hard. But then they ‘play offended’ of course.. and on it goes. Checking for reactions .. checking for apologies .. etc etc

Chicks are great at wearing masks really hey.
I’ve learned a lot of what they say are ‘hoops ‘/ BS frames /traps to see if a guy will fall info them /follow them and play in her court. And in their LTR frame.
This is very evident watching these chick TV shows “married at first sight” etc.
These shows are actually great studies of Girl Games.
Most frames chicks use in online dating are bullsh1tt. I just ignore them or go around them.

So yep I’ll read that advice and meditate on it.
And remeber to tighten up my comms.
cheers CJ

ive stopped texting girl 2 hot Asian now, 3 days ago. And starting to forget her..working on a big titties blonde instead and meeting her tmrw.
As it should be….
As Iceberg Slim would.
 
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Here’s a meme for a laugh

“That face you make..
when your main b1tch goes cold on you….”

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:rofl:
 
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yeah I reckon it’s a winner combo.( for me as my type /persona guy) I’m not super masc looking. W muscles efc. My bio pic is now an Ai’d shot of me .. but it’s added bulk somehow, I’m leaner.
AI shot huh? Have the chicks you've met commented on it?
 

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What u posted makes sense to be the way then
and I ought to switch.
It definitely is exhausting the comms. And the emoji s (lol @ that one VG )
Then the chicks start thibking “oh he’s open” start getting their hooks into the mind cracks and tryna open em up. Like the curious cats they are.
Dem sneaky detective b1tches.
Dude, it is your life, and it is always a learning process.
There's nothing I woudl say it is right or wrong, just what I do, based on my life experience, and current situation, which is already a lot different then yours.
Never take advice, and don't stick to formula or rules.

They might work most of the times, but sometimes doing the opposite is what works.
Pook said it better than me of course.

Lesson 9: Be not contained by formula

“I love you, Manual!” the young man cried. Any problems, any situations, Manual would always have an answer. He would consult with Manual day and night, memorize Manual’s teachings, and worship Manual.

But, oh oh. Something was not going right. He had burned the mantra in his mind, “Thou shall never stay on the phone longer than twenty minutes,” only to break it… with a startling success! Also ingrained was the mantra, “Thou shall never compromise,” and lo and behold! When he broke this rule, he usually crashed and burned. But this time he achieved high flying success. Soon, the rules that had so framed his courtly actions disintegrated.

“Ahh,” he realized. “These guides and rules were a clutch for my lack of confidence. They do, however, work but are overall limited.” Then he smiled. “The rules and guides are the training wheels, the helper out of the nest.”

No more shall he be completely dictated by that Spanish guy named Manual! He could now fly and soar on his own. So…

Be not contained by formula.
You have to know how to read and assess the situation. Only practice and experience will give you that.
I shut her down pretty hard. But then they ‘play offended’ of course.. and on it goes. Checking for reactions .. checking for apologies .. etc etc
Watch out on how your reading that. They actually do get offended. Especially if they are, like cats, coming to check the hand that feeds and get b!tchslaped. ie shutting her down pretty hard
So yep I’ll read that advice and meditate on it.
And remeber to tighten up my comms.
cheers CJ

ive stopped texting girl 2 hot Asian now, 3 days ago. And starting to forget her..working on a big titties blonde instead and meeting her tmrw.
As it should be….
As Iceberg Slim would.
Good lad
 

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Great read CJ, very entertaining!

Couple of questions - What do you have selected in your profile/profiles regarding the type of relationship you're looking for? Are you upfront about just wanting short term fun, or do you need to tell them you're looking for a LTR? (I'm asking for research purposes only, I don't care if you're honest with them or not)

Secondly, what do most of the chicks you're matching with/banging specify that they're looking for regarding a relationship?

Eagerly awaiting big titties blonde bang report!
 

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Great read CJ, very entertaining!

Couple of questions - What do you have selected in your profile/profiles regarding the type of relationship you're looking for? Are you upfront about just wanting short term fun, or do you need to tell them you're looking for a LTR? (I'm asking for research purposes only, I don't care if you're honest with them or not)

Secondly, what do most of the chicks you're matching with/banging specify that they're looking for regarding a relationship?

Eagerly awaiting big titties blonde bang report!
well..heres the update.
I met her yesterday at another halfway point. she picked the venue. A fancy restaurant.
I almost did a 180 when I saw the place lol. I cant afford this sh1t.
Anyways, had the fancy dinner and wine and her turn to pay which she did.
Then onto the foyer to listen to the band and neck a bit.
Onto the bar we went to first time - 3 more drinks on my tab. (owch)

Then at closing time she gave me a lift to my parked car, parked nearby and we started making out in her car.
Things got hot and she decided the re park in a darker location (smart girl :) )
we repark up the road.
Back making out again..
Got her jacket off. then bra off and top up n over :D , then fingerbanging her in the low lighting and cramped conditions.
so we both agree to move it to the back seat , :p
pants off ..her lying back me sucking her tits and making out, fingerbanging easier w more space..
she tells me "no sex - I've got my period .."(lol sure, whatever ) yep, my fingering explorations find there is a tampon in...(oh well)
SO eventually I had her straddling me , pants off , top up over the tits,
rubbing my **** on her very wet box ( by then) and reckoning a few more mins and its tampon out and **** in..
and just then....
someones lights come on in a car parked 2 over in this dark street car park were in!
She looks up surprised and notices a drunk guy two car spaces left taking a piss up against the tree nearby.
****! And another dude closeby, hanging by his car waiting for his mate. Both well drunk by the looks.
Heart pounder !
I try to tell her they cant see us, dont worry etc etc, but she got freaked and put the jeans back on.
Then they mosey/stumble off....phew! I resume the make out ...
Then ..the ****ing SUV next to us fires up and lights come on !! and proceeds to backs out .....

We are both "wtf is going on !?" ...I try to calm her and reescalate the vibe, but shes too freaked.
" I dont want them to see my ass!!"
Finally we notice the SUV has backed out , turned backwards, but is just sitting there , not driving off behind us..wtf?

She got dressed quick smart and jumped in the front again. And the SUV re-parks. (what?)
I get out of the back passenger door to move to front and look over..and theres a woman and a guy inside
laughing their heads off ! f-n doggers , having a watch and a laugh behind us. grrr!

So ...obvs it wasnt as dark in our car as I had thought.

We took off and she dropped me back around to my parked car.
I say goodbye. And only as she drives off down the road I realise...


I dont have my phone. fuccckkkk.

I spent 45 mins driving all around the car park spots after she left,
looking for the phone in the dark w my headlights.. hoping it fell on the ground.
Nope.
It fell out of my pants pocket in the back of her car. When I dropped the trousers.

So a **** worried half sleep last night and a total nitemare day today sans phone.

So thats the latest adventure/ mis-adventure.

I cant afford this chick I dont think.
She loves travel and fancy dinners and drinks...
So next date is a bang and move on.
(If I can manage to locate my phone that is.)

What a balls up....way too many wines had and it all went way too late.
 
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This chick gives awesome Game advice lads ...finally an honest woman giving straight up advice to men.

I'm subscribed for sure :cool:
Check her out
@FlourishwithLaurin on YT.

 

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The feels after sinking way too much costs to get to 2nd base w a chick :rolleyes:


Wake up! Grandma just put on a little makeup! :rofl:
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Analysis of my Online Game activites
Dec - current.
Approx figures

matches / chats 100+
dates 30
Ladies laid 12

Hours of texting and dates 200+
Money spent $600 ish
Hours of sex 30 +

Alternative scenarios-

(a) spend $600 + at a Brothel for direct action
Asian SWs = 4 ladies x 30min sessions
(Or 2 threeways)
White SWs = 2 ladies x 1 hour sessions

(b) work 100+ hours of that time in an extra job @ $25ph =$2,500
= 4 x hot escorts to my place for 1-2 hr sessions

(c) spend 100+ hours in the gym working out and looksmaxxing.
=results … unknown ?
maybe hotter chicks but less of them and they will still want fancy dinners so $600+will still be spent to get sex. Plus I’d have to up my apartment cleaning and wardrobe. So even more money to spend.

Depends what a guy wants I spose…
If I was a high earner and money not a constraint I think the choice is clear just to get sex tbh…
 
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