My week from Online dating apps - LRs

[nicksaiz65]

I'll add hobbies, interests, gym time, hanging with guys time, and studying and/or working.

OP is playing a dangerous game by spending so much time immersed in OLD apps and going out with women that chew up his time and money, especially at age 42.

I'll say it for the N’th time: Women should be a fun side dish on your plate of food, not the main course.

Good luck.

Well, I’ll play devils advocate & say that if his work is done, & the gym is knocked out, plus the other responsibilities are done, why not?

 

[Slowhandluke]

Well, I’ll play devils advocate & say that if his work is done, & the gym is knocked out, plus the other responsibilities are done, why not?

you can say this about almost everything... if my work, etc. is done, why not do another line? why not drink another shot?

there are millions of things out there in the world, this is the 30th vagina you "explored".. does it really matter if you "explored" yet another one? the 31th? I mean, at which point should the girl be paying you to be her gynecologist? you will have seen so many, touched so many... just give them an examine at that point. you know the lay of the land.

 

[Cheeky_James]

you can say this about almost everything... if my work, etc. is done, why not do another line? why not drink another shot?

there are millions of things out there in the world, this is the 30th vagina you "explored".. does it really matter if you "explored" yet another one? the 31th? I mean, at which point should the girl be paying you to be her gynecologist? you will have seen so many, touched so many... just give them an examine at that point. you know the lay of the land.

well. The problem is … if a guy does not want a steady relationship (which I dont) then casual relationships take time to craft and setup. All of this dating activity takes (a) a funnel of options and (b) time , flirting and tuning those options, plus the face to face dates etc etc

dating this way - ie ‘situationships ‘ - is a bit tricky tbh .. women can be like cats , they come they stay for a bit . they go.. so it can be a temporary thing of the making of the Hay.

so it becomes a hobby in itself the whole activity yeah.

I saw some user here TkSniper (i think it was) refer to this way as ‘farming’ which is a good analogy.
I have a field , I get app matches which are like spreading seeds, I have ‘rows’ of different types of plants (ladies ) I need to tend to them all, here and there,
Water them. Feed them, weed them.
Then coax them out of the earth… and fvck them ! Lolz

 

[Cheeky_James]

Tbh (and this is egotistical I know).. I approach fhings like I am a male escort.
And try to give that experience.
I front load all of my sexy value on the app. And try to give the ladies the porno star experience in the sack. The good sex is what I try to ‘sell’ to them. Plus the nice smooth /fun/ hot emotional experience moving towards the hot sexytimes.( The smooth ‘Wettening’ I’d call that )

this means I don’t always get the hottest chicks,
As my base SMV = Chad Lite / sexy foreigner.
And I can’t be bothered to’Game’ the hotter ones most of the time.

They take a bit more ‘tuning’ ime and tend to be cagier and testier re persuing me. These types know their value and may hold out for the better offers. (Whatever that may be)

maybe I just need to be bolder w those ones( idk?)
So I get a mix of ladies , types and quality wise IRL.
But I’m ok w that, as I like variety.

This is my synopsis of my “Game “.

CJ

 

[Cheeky_James]

The rule is

You only get illness if you get tested.

Exactly .

 

[The Duke]

Sounds like a helluva party. Hang on until the wheels fall off.

I never put up these kind of numbers but I did go thru a period where I felt like I was a cahk for hire. All they wanted me for was my meat! Lol

When I got a sti and wasn't sure which one gave it to me I knew it was time to let off the throttle.

Until then stand on it son!

We need some good stories.....

 

[characternote]

I’m from UK area originally but living on the other end of the planet now.

you running passport game I take it?
Either way, enjoy! It's like fishing with dynamite!

 

[Solomon]

OP what's your work out routine?

 

[Cheeky_James]

OP what's your work out routine?

My work out routine is about 25 + hours per week of Horizontal Jogging at the moment Solomon.!

 

[Cheeky_James]

you running passport game I take it?
Either way, enjoy! It's like fishing with dynamite!

im living here a long time now, but my accent and background is my main draw for women on the apps yes. So Passport Game I guess if that’s what that means idk.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Weekend Uodate! More fun last night.
Got a booty call text from a Hinge match .. at 12:30am .. which I didn’t read till 2am (lol)
Arrived at Her place at near 3am.
Left at 5am ..

A Very dirty lady .. IF you know what I mean ;P

That is all. Exhausted today.after 5 hours aleep afterwards. Sheeit . Pimpin ain’t easy …

 

[Cheeky_James]

And now Monday.
A 3 hour marathon w my chickie babe #2 .
Man, I love this woman !!!

I’m tempted to drop the others now the jiggy jiggy is so good. She’s a level above the others for sure.
unreal.

@Lotus Effect.. and so it begins !

btw meant to ask you, re your experience how long ago was that LTR and doesn’t your Alpha Energy renew after a period of time? How is your game these days. . CJ.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Man, I love this woman !!!

...

@Lotus Effect.. and so it begins !

It didn't took you long enough, eh? Hahaha

Well, one could see that coming from a mile.

btw meant to ask you, re your experience how long ago was that LTR and doesn’t your Alpha Energy renew after a period of time? How is your game these days. . CJ.

First of all, thanks for asking, and sorry for the delay, I got caught up at work for a quite time consuming trade show.

Regarding your questions, it was 1 year 9 months relationship.
We broke up 45 days ago.

Parents were met, trips were traveled, plans were made.
It was really going to an interesting direction, considering I want kids.

But her being very hot, and on high demand, she would test me on a daily basis.
Most of them I would say unconcioussly, but still.

If I passed those tests, she would then become super relaxed, caring, and horny.
If I failed, she would stonewall me, close up, and give me the silent treatment. And those were really bad for my general self esteem

I have a clear understanding now, that she was testing my Alpha congruency.

But since it was a daily barrage of tests, she was too damn crazy, and extremely demanding, I would eventually concede and or fail those tests and she begun to see cracks on my initial Alpha persona.

With time, those failures compounded, ultimately breaking my frame, and leading up to the eventual lost of attraction, and not much later than that, lost of respect.

After chumping out, and showing her AFC behaviours, It didn't took her long to leave.

I would even go as far as to say that she endured it for a while, because we had very deep feelings for each other, ie, Love, and we were already quite intrinsic in each others lives, but again, ultimately, her Hypergamic programming got the best of her (and the worst of me) and she left.

Bear with me that I'm not saying that she was not crazy and it was all on me, but I know how to evaluate my fair share of responsability.

But it is good to note that having that kind of constant scrutiny can wear you down, and can do it fast.

Anyway,
I'm telling you all of this to show you that it took me quite some time to get broken, so, to answer your question, when you are broke in that way, it is not as easy, nor fast, to put yourself back together.

To renew my now so called Alpha energy, is costing me a lot of time and effort, and just one ping of her the other day was enough to really throw me off balance again.

And even tho I'm finding my social and people skills again, aka, finding myself, my game is total shlt now.

Some unsolicited advice,
Do what you wanna do, follow your heart and trust your instinct. No one lives your life but yourself.
So no one should tell you how to do it, especially a random person online.

Just be aware of your heart. Be aware of attachement.
Be ready to bail when you see them red flags. And be prepared to learn to deal with loss.

All those above things make a man a man, so its all good tho.

I'm not the best one to give advice as of this moment, 'cause I'm still heartbroken, but go enjoy your girl.

Best case scenario you'll live an incredible adventure.
Worst case scenario, the NC Thread is always here for everyone.

Cheers mate!

 

[corrector]

Tbh (and this is egotistical I know).. I approach fhings like I am a male escort.
And try to give that experience.
I front load all of my sexy value on the app. And try to give the ladies the porno star experience in the sack. The good sex is what I try to ‘sell’ to them. Plus the nice smooth /fun/ hot emotional experience moving towards the hot sexytimes.( The smooth ‘Wettening’ I’d call that )

this means I don’t always get the hottest chicks,
As my base SMV = Chad Lite / sexy foreigner.
And I can’t be bothered to’Game’ the hotter ones most of the time.

They take a bit more ‘tuning’ ime and tend to be cagier and testier re persuing me. These types know their value and may hold out for the better offers. (Whatever that may be)

maybe I just need to be bolder w those ones( idk?)
So I get a mix of ladies , types and quality wise IRL.
But I’m ok w that, as I like variety.

This is my synopsis of my “Game “.

CJ

That's not game, that is shooting fish in a barrel by winning the genetic lottery. Actual game (ie at least useful, beyond the blackpill, well, there you go, Mr. Chadlite gets the girls by just showing up, so unless you are like that you are bascially screwed and should give up) would be going after the hotter girls.

If this is part of your regular lifestyle, what would prompt you to write about this now? Dating apps have existed for quite some time.
You sound like a kid in a candy store like you just discovered this yesterday or just recently found out about a site like this and joined? Were you always like this or did you have an origin story where you sucked with women but became like this now?

 

[Cheeky_James]

DP

 

[Cheeky_James]

That's not game, that is shooting fish in a barrel by winning the genetic lottery. Actual game (ie at least useful, beyond the blackpill, well, there you go, Mr. Chadlite gets the girls by just showing up, so unless you are like that you are bascially screwed and should give up) would be going after the hotter girls.

easy fella
I’m not *that* good looking.
Im only 5’10-11” tall for example, but have a decent, masculine face. And I don’t have a good rig, I’m leaner these days but don’t gym.

I say I’m a ‘chadlite’ but tbh.., I don’t really know.
Rating systems are kinda dumb. Women have “types” of preferences.

so you mention “actual Game”.. or I spose “great Game”.

what does that mean to you, what’s your definition of that.?
Is it an average looking/ ugly looking short dude with no cash and status , that picks ups a rotation of super hot chicks just based on his attitude/verbals/behaviour (?)

 

[corrector]

easy fella
I’m not *that* good looking.
Im only 5’10-11” tall for example, but have a decent, masculine face. And I don’t have a good rig, I’m leaner these days but don’t gym.

I say I’m a ‘chadlite’ but tbh.., I don’t really know.
Rating systems are kinda dumb. Women have “types” of preferences.

so you mention “actual Game”.. or I spose “great Game”.

what does that mean to you, what’s your definition of that.?
Is it an average looking/ ugly looking short dude with no cash and status , that picks ups a rotation of super hot chicks just based on his attitude/verbals/behaviour (?)

Did you come from a background where you were below average/average in looks, broke, no status, and worked on improving yourself, and this is where you are today?

 

[Cheeky_James]

Did you come from a background where you were below average/average in looks, broke, no status, and worked on improving yourself, and this is where you are today?

Well. Yes and no. I can elaborate later with more detail.
But please.. firstly, explain what “actual Game”/ “great Game” means to you. what’s your exact definition of that etc. as there are many interpretations/meanings to that one word ‘Game’.

I’m gathering , based on your reply , it means radical self-improvement leading to a big shift upwards in LMS and therefore SMV.

And through this shift up. thereby ends up as way more attractive to many Hot Women, resulting in an ease in pulling them (?)
(Is that about right ? Just guessing..)

 

[corrector]

Well. Yes and no. I can elaborate later with more detail.

That would be very useful.

But please.. firstly, explain what “actual Game”/ “great Game” means to you. what’s your exact definition of that etc. as there are many interpretations/meanings to that one word ‘Game’.

As you said, you mainly picked up women from dating sites that pre-selected you and were already interested in you....you just make yourself available and worked out your logistics. You mention things like booking them, etc... It would appear your "great game" is really bedroom game and made comparisons to how you are seeing women to booking escorts (ie if you had the money), and that you'd actually prefer escorts since there is no risk of emotional tie-ins, etc.... That to me at least sounds like you have a catalogue of women to choose from.

Even picking up escorts requires game, probably more game then what you need to get free women. With escorts you still have to convince her you are serious, not dangerous to her, etc..... so there is game involved there. However, when women are doing all the work for you and you just have to show up, then where is the game with that? The only game you need is to show up.

That's why I'm sort of challenging the idea that any game is involved once you are a certain tier of looks and women want you like that. Then it's not a matter of game, it's a matter if you are gay or not, lol

 

[Cheeky_James]

@corrector
You are still not giving me your definition of “Great Game”. Moreso still deflecting back to me on that question, re what *I* said.
Why don’t we start with our definitions firstly.
As there are many. And I asked you first for your definiton. so you go. Mine is definitely different to yours.

ill give more info then.

btw , what is “bedroom game?” Again this is a new term to me. There are so many sub-terms and morphing of this one meta-term of “Game “ tbh. So many “splits”.
It’s a bit redic!

and afaik I didn’t make a comparison of the women I bang as being female escorts… I said *i* consider myself akin to a *male * escort to THEM.
I bring the sex value on the lays. And make sure they get off and very well too,
It’s ‘Ladies first ‘ is my M.O.

And also btw, and there is not much “game” required to bang a female escort/ho . lol,
They give sex in exchange for cold hard cash. If a guy has the cash, she’ll just vet him for obvious red flags. and do the transaction.
Not much “game” required at all…. (Why would there be?)
That’s pretty nonsensical dude.
More Game required vs getting hot sex for free…

As if.

so yes , I probably said banging super hot escorts would be easier than using Hinge (or easier than any other way to get’ free ‘sex)

because it is. Obvs. Cash in exchange for sex and that’s it. That’s just a fact. (Or so I presumed)