"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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my virgin gf asks me for a blood test...

pipe007

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so I finally found a quality girl, has everything im looking for, and she is really happy with me. Great!

we been exclusive bf and gf for 3 months now, so yesterday I felt its been a good amount of time since we had the last talk that I would wait until she is ready for sex, because she is 19 and a virgin, Im her first bf which I think its great.... well yesterday we were just doing some foreplay and stuff and I asked her if she felt more comfortable with me and that she would see herself doing it with me.

well she said yes, that she is ready... but that she wants me to do a blood test just in case.... So I was taken by surprise by her comment, but I feel she is a quality girl and I said, if that will make u feel secure, then we can do that.

now, last time I had a blood test, I came positive for HSV 1, (herpes 1) the one that is suppsed to be in the mouth, even though I never get the symptoms ,,, Though I get cold sores once every six months, but I've had that since i was a kid....

I like this girl, I want things to work, Im a bit concerned that she will freak out if the test comes positive for oral herpes... i think well its not genital herpes that could be worse.... but IDK how to preceed here....

feeling a bit down, dont really wanna break up with her, i dont think she would if she found out, but Im not sure... is there a way to get tested for all STDs and genital herpes and NOT for oral herpes?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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powpow

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The majority of the population has HSV-1 and will test positive for it during a blood test. Your doctor will vouch for this.
 

terran2k

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you put this girl on a pedistal, like she's so perfect and you're not.
who knows what nasty azz sh!t she's had down there and will never EVER tell you.
I guess I can't argue with her wanting safe sex, still make sure you wrap it up though.
tell her what you got, if she don't like it, well sucks to be her for ditching a good guy like you.
dont become a liar.
everybody's got flaws man, you're only 3 months in, wait till after 6 months, when you start finding out sh!t about her. you'll see.
 

Bible_Belt

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Herpes is spread by skin-to-skin contact much more so than actual penetrative sex. Just don't kiss any part of her when you have a cold sore, and you will both be fine.
 

PDubb75

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powpow said:
The majority of the population has HSV-1 and will test positive for it during a blood test. Your doctor will vouch for this.
I'm no doctor, but I can vouch for this, as I work at an STD testing company. Many of our customers test "positive" for it, however, more in the "warning" range. We don't consider these positive tests.

pipe007 said:
is there a way to get tested for all STDs and genital herpes and NOT for oral herpes?
Absolutely. I'm not going to advertise my company on here, but feel free to contact me if you want more info. You can select the tests that you want performed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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