Master Don Juan
- Apr 6, 2018
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That's true!congratulations! atleast you have a boy i messed around and had a daughter
. yup you are right , the older he gets the less and less contact with the mother is needed.
eventually you wouldnt even have to say anything to her. moving away is a good idea. rollo talked about this in rational male , the real degree of power as a man is the degree to which you control your own life.
many men stick in toxic relationships just for the kids, and thats not right.
I don't have much expectations about having a good relationship with him. I have a very toxic parents (a lot of narc traits) and my dad is already seeding some negative ideas about me to my son. But I still hope in the future he can see things clearly and we could have a good relationship.
Its definitely not worth to stay around in toxic relationships only for the kid. It can be way worse. My therapist talked about this with me in the last session.
And my dad made such bullsh1t with his defamation campaigns, telling everyone in this small town that my son doesn't have a father. And showing how great he is and how he is taking care of him. He is only a trophy to my dad.
So this defamation campaign generates some hate on me by some people (flying monkeys). It's being also difficult to meet woman here, since what he did.
Hopefully, a lot of people also know him and a lot got caught on his abuses too. So he is kinda showing his face without no effort. Just being himself.
The good thing about that is that I sleep everyday with my mind clear, that I'm not doing anything wrong with my son and I would never be like my dad to him. Even bein distant in his first years, I know that I would never be so perverse and so evil as my dad.
My plans to move out will have to be earlier than I imagined.
I hope and wish that you don't have this kind of problems with your daughter and that you can have a good relationship with her.