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I've been talking and dating some women lately, some hit on me and even showed a high-interest level... The more I become better physically and emotionally it gots easier.

But I'm observing those dates, in general, it seems so dirty... Having sex is good for a moment pleasure, but I'm feeling disgusted with how things are going nowadays.

Tired of games, of gold diggers, of liars, committed women that tells that they are single until you find that out, crazy ones...

The fact is, the more I met some women out there and see how things are going, I'm getting sick of it. Not on a point to get married or settle down, cause I don't believe in that anymore. It seems better to be alone and choose carefully even casual dates and sex.

I just see how weird and dirt those things are, and it seems a waste of time. I also understand that it's a natural desire and I will never stop having this desire for sex, cause this is what it is.

Also, when I'm going towards my purposes... I felt energized. But some dates, I went off feeling a low level of energy after that. And of course, a few ones were good... but it's so few dates that I felt a good energy.

With friends, the same... Have some that when we go to hang out is such a great time, the share of ideas and it makes you energized. Also, there are some guys I used to hang out and used to felt drained after that.

Maybe some belief or fantasy is dying inside me, and a new understanding will come... but that's so weird.
We're around the same age, yet you seem a lot more depressed about this than I am.
I have also found that meaningless flings are...well...meaningless.
Sexual satisfaction often gives you buyer's remore, as I feel like I am quite a different man before/after sex.

To me, finding a woman that I really enjoy spending time with after sex is much more rewarding than 100 one-night-stands.

Try to screen women better and go for the ones that you care about, not just those interested in you.
I also keep myself active, playing lots of sports, and I feel a lot more relaxed and overall happy.
 

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I think it's normal to become a bit jaded with age and experience. I've noticed myself that after getting burnt the first times, I don't fall in love anymore so easily. My emotions are not as strong as they were before, which is both good and bad. Also, I'm far less trusting of women not but unfortunately that seems to be necessary since they tend to lie almost continuously (especially about anything related to dating).
I see this being a pretty popular thing.

I behave a lot differently than this tho.
I can still kinda fall in love easy. By that I mean I give 100% as soon as she appears interesting to me. Even if I have a meeting set with another woman the following day. I don't hold back because I got hurt before. The only thing that changed through time was the amount of bullsh1t I tolerate.

Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, which sounds terrible in this day and age, but it somehow works for me. I am happy and that's what I care about.
 

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Thats what happens with time, women get less pleasable to deal with and less able to bond while they increase their baggage; men on the other side get used to sex and that alone is no longer a motivation to tolerate sub optimal company and people they have nothing in common with.

Dont wanna sound too cinical but good healthy relations happen when the woman is still innocent enough and able to bond while the man is still "naive" and his brain still willing to put up with a certain degree of drama and work.

This happens when a girl before her mid 20s and a guy before his early 30s bond and grow togheter sharing most of high impact experiences togheter wheter its serious dating, having free emotional sex with each other and so on.

When the girl gets pumped&dumped from many chads while using betas for pleasures and the guy is used to see through the bullsh1t and play accordingly, they are no longer able to form a proper couple...even more when she is expiring and he needs peace more than validation.
Man, I'm not looking forward to getting older and meeting 30+ y.o. women.
God, I hope some girl manages to get me out of the market by then. :cool:
 

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Man, I'm not looking forward to getting older and meeting 30+ y.o. women.
God, I hope some girl manages to get me out of the market by then. :cool:
My fwb is 29 and she is emptied out, spent, jaded and has haunting damage. I think she knows herself that she is "done". However that said, just counting their age is not enough at all. She can be spent early, or unspoiled until much later - it depends on who she is. Who she is is what you really have to go by as causative, age is just the correlation/odds.

If you want a wife... Then theres a wall for you as a man too. Because youll be dependent on having women around you who are both unspoiled enough to be wifes, and who Still havent been snatched up. They didn't mention this fine print when they sold you the "red pill life".
 

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My fwb is 29 and she is emptied out, spent, jaded and has haunting damage. I think she knows herself that she is "done". However that said, just counting their age is not enough at all. She can be spent early, or unspoiled until much later - it depends on who she is. Who she is is what you really have to go by as causative, age is just the correlation/odds.

If you want a wife... Then theres a wall for you as a man too. Because youll be dependent on having women around you who are both unspoiled enough to be wifes, and who Still havent been snatched up. They didn't mention this fine print when they sold you the "red pill life".
God bless you!
From what I remembered, you were a smart and balanced guy. What the fk happened, man?
Go get some fresh air, man, you're not ok mentally, throwing some coloured pills insults around and stuff.
Those pills don't exist, it's just a matter of rationalization and hard work. Snap out of that depression. You're better than this.
Life is great.
 

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God bless you!
From what I remembered, you were a smart and balanced guy. What the fk happened, man?
Go get some fresh air, man, you're not ok mentally, throwing some coloured pills insults around and stuff.
Those pills don't exist, it's just a matter of rationalization and hard work. Snap out of that depression. You're better than this.
Life is great.
No insult from me bro. Thanks for the encouraging words.
 

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If you want a wife... Then theres a wall for you as a man too. Because youll be dependent on having women around you who are both unspoiled enough to be wifes, and who Still havent been snatched up. They didn't mention this fine print when they sold you the "red pill life".
Seriously. It is our fault for not taking the time to become socially calibrated in late teens I guess.
 

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Seriously. It is our fault for not taking the time to become socially calibrated in late teens I guess.
You passed up on some girls you would've liked to be with in retrospect?
 

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You passed up on some girls you would've liked to be with in retrospect?
In college yes but I had no game or social calibration, just focused on career. College is really your last chance to be around a lot of high value women, early 20s to a degree if you prioritize it.
 

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In college yes but I had no game or social calibration, just focused on career. College is really your last chance to be around a lot of high value women, early 20s to a degree if you prioritize it.
Yeah if I don't find anyone now throughout university then I can finally put any aspirations of it to rest like you guys have lol. Am not expecting it to happen either, but we'll see.
 
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I like golf actually but it is frustrating haha
me too; its the ultimate mental game. I love the focus you need. I'm going to the driving range tonight to relax.
 

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I do find it best to have an ongoing FWB. I think the most important thing is to not give up resources. It sets a precedence. As long as you refrain from that, she will maintain along that line.

I really like a hot connection. Personally I do not get attached beyond that. So that’s in my favor. I could see one as much as I want and I can guarantee that I will not “fall in love”. I like having feelings for a lover. But it will never go past that. Ever.

Married women are more capable of this arrangement due to her already being fully provided for and also her job. Unfortunately.
 
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me too; its the ultimate mental game. I love the focus you need. I'm going to the driving range tonight to relax.
Have any advice for game improvement irons or otherwise? I want to buy used to keep the cost down bc I don't play enough, but would like a good brand.
 

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Have any advice for game improvement irons or otherwise? I want to buy used to keep the cost down bc I don't play enough, but would like a good brand.
I actually use a noname brand of clubs that was an inexpensive xmas gift from someone. Tonight I'm taking an assortment of drivers to see which ones I like the best. One of them is an old P ing so I'm excited to try that one. (someone wanted me to have their old clubs so I just took a few drivers to experiment with)
It takes me a long time to buy namebrand " good " sporting equipment. Even when my income was triple what it is now, I only ever bought namebrand x-country skiis, not clubs yet.

I grew up with hippy, frugal parents that always bought used from thrift stores for us.

I think C allahan? is supposed to be a good club maker.


As for technique, I remember being more comfortable with a 3 'wood' driver than a 1. I remember using the higher number irons for the long fairway shots after the tee (7 and 8 iron) and a large face putter for the green.

(I haven't played a full round of golf in awhile now....I miss it)
 
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