"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My time here is almost up....

Warrior74

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I just came to check out sosuave and get a sense of what it's all about. I'm a member of another forum and I have to say, it some good to be found in the mature man forum. Most of you guys are really good guys who have learned from life experiences.

The other DJ forums...those guys need lots of help. It's up to you old heads to school the youngsters with what you've learned. I'll probably stop through and check out the MM every now and then to see what's up.

I'm taking some time off from all of the forums I'm on except for my art and music forums for a while. Going to cocentrate on my art, music, health and finances for a few months and try to get those things going where I want them to be. I don't think I'm ready for a bunch of women in my life right now. I got alot of personal work to finish up. Plus giving up cigerettes and drinking is hard to do when your going out to the clubs. :) See you guys around.

Good luck.

Warrior74
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MacAvoy

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You sound like a MM with a good head on your shoulders. The most important thing is you've got to take care of yourself and your on the path. Good luck to you and hopefully we'll see you at some point in the future.

Taking a break from women is a good thing at times, imperative once in a while if you ask me. Same with this forum, many of the older posters take long breaks then come back when they need reflecting or to sharpen their skills.
 

wjh

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Ive taken a break from giving a f.uck about anyone or anything other me. Don't know how permanent this will be.
 

Magma

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Warrior74 said:
I'm taking some time off from all of the forums I'm on except for my art and music forums for a while. Going to cocentrate on my art, music, health and finances for a few months and try to get those things going where I want them to be. I don't think I'm ready for a bunch of women in my life right now. I got alot of personal work to finish up. Plus giving up cigerettes and drinking is hard to do when your going out to the clubs. :) See you guys around.

Good luck.

Warrior74
Good for you, Warrior. I quit drinking about 3 years ago and have just recently given up cigs (1 month). I focused on myself and my hobbies/interests during this time and put women on the backburner (sort of).

MacAvoy is right about the mature forum. There was a period of about four months where I didn't post on here. I have a life, what can I say? Although I've been posting more in the last couple of months because it's as cold as a witch's tit here in the winter, and I stay indoors more. I mainly stick the mature forum and will occasionally dip into "anything else." Feel free to drop in anytime.

Good luck to you sir.
 

grinder

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Don’t just leave here, take what you have learned here with you into the field, the real world and practice practice practice!

Many spend far too much time on here and fail to implement what they learn here in their lives.

There is more here than anyone can grasp at one time. Go, come back later, touch base, learn more, take it with you again into the field.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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