"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74

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I just came to check out sosuave and get a sense of what it's all about. I'm a member of another forum and I have to say, it some good to be found in the mature man forum. Most of you guys are really good guys who have learned from life experiences.

The other DJ forums...those guys need lots of help. It's up to you old heads to school the youngsters with what you've learned. I'll probably stop through and check out the MM every now and then to see what's up.

I'm taking some time off from all of the forums I'm on except for my art and music forums for a while. Going to cocentrate on my art, music, health and finances for a few months and try to get those things going where I want them to be. I don't think I'm ready for a bunch of women in my life right now. I got alot of personal work to finish up. Plus giving up cigerettes and drinking is hard to do when your going out to the clubs. :) See you guys around.

Good luck.

Warrior74
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MacAvoy

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You sound like a MM with a good head on your shoulders. The most important thing is you've got to take care of yourself and your on the path. Good luck to you and hopefully we'll see you at some point in the future.

Taking a break from women is a good thing at times, imperative once in a while if you ask me. Same with this forum, many of the older posters take long breaks then come back when they need reflecting or to sharpen their skills.
 

wjh

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Ive taken a break from giving a f.uck about anyone or anything other me. Don't know how permanent this will be.
 

Magma

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Warrior74 said:
I'm taking some time off from all of the forums I'm on except for my art and music forums for a while. Going to cocentrate on my art, music, health and finances for a few months and try to get those things going where I want them to be. I don't think I'm ready for a bunch of women in my life right now. I got alot of personal work to finish up. Plus giving up cigerettes and drinking is hard to do when your going out to the clubs. :) See you guys around.

Good luck.

Warrior74
Good for you, Warrior. I quit drinking about 3 years ago and have just recently given up cigs (1 month). I focused on myself and my hobbies/interests during this time and put women on the backburner (sort of).

MacAvoy is right about the mature forum. There was a period of about four months where I didn't post on here. I have a life, what can I say? Although I've been posting more in the last couple of months because it's as cold as a witch's tit here in the winter, and I stay indoors more. I mainly stick the mature forum and will occasionally dip into "anything else." Feel free to drop in anytime.

Good luck to you sir.
 

grinder

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Don’t just leave here, take what you have learned here with you into the field, the real world and practice practice practice!

Many spend far too much time on here and fail to implement what they learn here in their lives.

There is more here than anyone can grasp at one time. Go, come back later, touch base, learn more, take it with you again into the field.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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