"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My stupid mistake...

Buff_Drinklots

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Okay, so here's my mistake:

There's this girl I REALLY like, and I asked her if we could date and she said "yes". My mistake was the other night I told her how I felt about her (I loved her... I've loved her for well over a year) . She didn't instantly freak out, but I've got this terrible feeling about the situation.

What should I do? Should I distance myself from her a little or what? I seriously need advice!

if ya got any words o' wisdom, email [email protected] . I really appreciate it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MindOverMatter

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You screwed up, she's gone. Of all the things you could have told her that early on, that was prolly the worst. There's no way you can recover from this, all you can do is accept that you failed, learn from your mistake and move on.

Read all this http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php before you ever do something like this again. Especially read the anti-dump machine
 

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I agree with MindOverMatter, you'v got oneitis and you vomit your emotion to this girl way too early on. Go on to another girl and keep your mouth shut about your emotions and insecurities.
 

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Oooh, yeah, definitely a bad move. But out of curiosity, what makes you have this "bad feeling" about the situation?
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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You should have a bad feeling... you screwed up by telling her how you felt.

She doesn't wanna hear it.... she wants you to show her , not tell her.

By telling her what you did, you gave her all the power.

That was probably enough to satisfy her.



The Bad Ass Canadian
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Buff_Drinklots

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Originally posted by becker
Oooh, yeah, definitely a bad move. But out of curiosity, what makes you have this "bad feeling" about the situation?
We were supposed to go see DEBBIE DOES DALLAS : THE MUSICAL on friday, but she tried to push it back to next week. I convinced her to go with me on Sunday instead. I'm thinking about cancelling.

On top of that, yeah, I read all those "Dude, don't be a wuss and tell her how you feel" posts... only I read 'em a little late. Woops. So yeah, bad feeling.
 

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the game is always about learning where you mess up and why. As long as you know where you went wrong and arent clueless now that shes not into you (which you are) you are semi-victorioues. You know know (or should know) to never make this same mistatke again. Learn from every bad experience, where you go wrong, why you messed up. Also, learn from every good experience, what you did right, why it worked this particular time, and how you can do it again. gl bro, keep learning the game and you will master it
 
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