"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Okay, so here's my mistake:

There's this girl I REALLY like, and I asked her if we could date and she said "yes". My mistake was the other night I told her how I felt about her (I loved her... I've loved her for well over a year) . She didn't instantly freak out, but I've got this terrible feeling about the situation.

What should I do? Should I distance myself from her a little or what? I seriously need advice!

if ya got any words o' wisdom, email [email protected] . I really appreciate it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You screwed up, she's gone. Of all the things you could have told her that early on, that was prolly the worst. There's no way you can recover from this, all you can do is accept that you failed, learn from your mistake and move on.

Read all this http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php before you ever do something like this again. Especially read the anti-dump machine
 
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I agree with MindOverMatter, you'v got oneitis and you vomit your emotion to this girl way too early on. Go on to another girl and keep your mouth shut about your emotions and insecurities.
 
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Oooh, yeah, definitely a bad move. But out of curiosity, what makes you have this "bad feeling" about the situation?
 
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You should have a bad feeling... you screwed up by telling her how you felt.

She doesn't wanna hear it.... she wants you to show her , not tell her.

By telling her what you did, you gave her all the power.

That was probably enough to satisfy her.



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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by becker
Oooh, yeah, definitely a bad move. But out of curiosity, what makes you have this "bad feeling" about the situation?
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We were supposed to go see DEBBIE DOES DALLAS : THE MUSICAL on friday, but she tried to push it back to next week. I convinced her to go with me on Sunday instead. I'm thinking about cancelling.

On top of that, yeah, I read all those "Dude, don't be a wuss and tell her how you feel" posts... only I read 'em a little late. Woops. So yeah, bad feeling.
 
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the game is always about learning where you mess up and why. As long as you know where you went wrong and arent clueless now that shes not into you (which you are) you are semi-victorioues. You know know (or should know) to never make this same mistatke again. Learn from every bad experience, where you go wrong, why you messed up. Also, learn from every good experience, what you did right, why it worked this particular time, and how you can do it again. gl bro, keep learning the game and you will master it
 
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