"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SilverSonnet

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Hey, my name is Ben, I'm 14 and from the UK. I've been meaning to make one of these for awhile, but I was afraid I couldn't keep up with it, or that I would look back and see I haven't done much. Well, it's time to grab my nuts and do it anyway. Hope you all help me along, and provide me with any advice.
I'll post regularly with updates to my objectives and how I am achieving them. Positive feedback is welcomed and definitely desired. Thanks to all the people who post, and wish me luck! :up:

MAJOR OBJECTIVES:


BE AN ALPHA MALE & MAN OF CLASS
Throughout my life, I've always been pretty submissive, and losing arguments, fights and disputes. I usually cave in to my friends, and do what they want to do instead of what I want. I really want to change this and be powerful, popular and respected.

LEARN TO COMMAND RESPECT FROM PEOPLE
This links in with the objective above, but I want respect from people and to respect people. People seem to walk over me, and I believe that I come across as a weak person, who cant stand up for myself, verbally or physically. I want respect and recognition from people, and I also want to learn to respect people and not bully and tease people, for my personal enjoyment, as I do not enjoy making fun of people for no reason. I think that it is peer pressure or because i find that my own life sucks pretty bad, that I bully others to make my life seem a little better, so this HAS to change.

BE MORE SOCIAL/ GO OUT MORE OFTEN
I want to be able to go out about 4-5 times a week doing things with lots of friends, meeting women, and new friends alike. Right now, I hardly ever go out, I come home and sit down and come onto my laptop and wonder why my life sucks. I want to change this and be seen as a social animal!

TONE MY BODY
I have a workout routine (made by WesCottII, cheers mate) and I want to use it to work out 3 times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I don't want to be the loser kid who has no muscles and just bone and flab. I weigh about 133 lbs (or 10 stone 5) and as soon as I hit 16, I plan to join a Gym.

APPROACH WOMEN
I always chicken out when it comes to women, I make friends easily with them, but attracting them? I suck! In year 9 of secondary school, I hit on 30-40 women, and got rejected by ALL of them, so rejection doesn't phase me much anymore, but I'd prefer to have the opposite effect and actually get the women ;) I plan to learn to approach women first, talk to them, make them laugh and have fun, then I'll learn to get numbers, kiss closes, and when Im a bit older(16/17) F' closes.

SECONDARY OBJECTIVES:
RATION MY WORDS(DON’T TALK SO MUCH)
I remember reading in the 48 Laws of Power that you should always say less than necessary. People find me annoying because I tend to jabber on and I make awfully lame jokes and say random stupid sh!t. So, I am hoping this will make me less annoying, and look and be more powerful..

Law 4: Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open- ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.



CLEAR MY SKIN
I have had acne on my face and arms now, for about 2-3 years now, and this is something I really want to change. I recently bought a range of clearasil spot-fighting products, so I'll let you know how it goes. I also purchased a moisturizer by Nivea, which should keep my skin soft and looking good.

BE WITTIER AND FUNNIER
I've always made lame jokes, and awful quips, this is something I NEED to change, for me and for other people. When I make a joke, people want to kill themselves, honestly, I have the joke-telling capacity of a mentally retarded 2 year old, it's horrible. (WesCottII is awfully funny and sarcastic, so to be funnier and wittier than he is, is my extreme goal, watch your back Tom;))

FUTURE/SMALL OBJECTIVES

GET A TAN
I used to have a lovely dark tan, and that's something I want back, as I hate being pale and white. I could complete this objective by going to a tanning salon(if Im old enough), sunbathing(I'll be lucky in England:down: ) or fake tan which I am loathing to use as it usually turns out turning people ORANGE:crazy: so no go right now.

LEARN TO KISS
I dont know what my kissing capabilities are right now, but I think that only practice will help me, so when I start pulling those birds, this should be improving as well. Tomatoes and anybody else I've seen posting things about this, gimme some help here lads ;)

REVISE OFTEN
I'm slacking off in lessons, and putting coursework to one side, if I dont pull my socks up I'm going to fail my GCSE's. I need to set an hour a day for revision and homework. I think this is going to be the hardest objective as I have trouble concentrating(everyone has always said I find it hard to keep focussed) but I'm willing to put everything I have into improving my life and myself.

GET BETTER AT PLAYING RUGBY
Everybody in my team has said I'm ultra crap, so it's time to be the best;)
I want to be a really good left winger, and hopefully, if I bulk up with working out, get a forward position(like Tom, you aggressive git) and start being able to crush people(being my job:p)

So, there they are. My goals, dreams and objectives. Help me out here lads, I'm gonna need it. So, let's get to it, and improve my life one step at a time.

Peace out
Ben ;)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That's cool that you play rugby. I played winger in college. It was a hell of a lot of running.
 

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Lol, thanks for the feedback, and Wolf, damn you make me laugh. Gimme your MSN brother, lost you in my contact clear-up
@ tick, I'm sorry but I find football rather dull, I enjoy playing it though. But the rules are too far-fetched and complicated. i prefer the good ol' let's smash eachother to pieces ;)


ben;)
 

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Hi there. Good for you that you started this. I'm sure you can do it. I'll keep reading this journal and bother you with PM's if you get lazy ;)

I didn't know you were so young. 14 is really young. I wish I discovered this place when I was your age. Good for you. You'll learn quicker.

Oh, one tip: take one step at a time.
 

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Thanks Snow, If you get lazy I'll PM your right fvcking back bro, ;)

good luck with you. Update, I just had this chat with a girl I used to like, and still do. She told me that she always waited for me to kiss her...I had PERFECT oppurtunities guys. You know you all wait for those PERFECT MOMENTS, I had tons of them, when we were close, when I was pushing her into walls and grinding up against her, when we were in the rain, and I always pussied out..NO MORE! I'm gonna grow a pair, and jump right out of my comfort zone and off that cliff, and do this shiz. Got it? Good ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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For the ACNE in this country (UK) as opposed to the states our doctors dont seem to think its such a big deal. If it goes on for more than a year ask for a referal to a dermatologist, as he can prescribe you ROACCUTANE. This is the daddy of all acne treatments and normally a single course will wipe it out for years, if not for ever. Its quite expensive treatment so they dont like to offer it out easily, but believe, it wipes the arse off all other treatments. You can get it for free on the NHS.

As for your other plans - thats great. Work on your body and your game. I made the decision to "DJ it up" much later than you - I was 22. Upto then I had probably only really fvcked 3-4 girls and had come out of a rubbish 2 year relationship. After that (and the gym was HARD work 3-4 times a week watching the diet etc) I had confidence to approach. I went to pulling 2-3 girls every saturday night and getting laid at the end most of the time. Even now (i'm 29) I prefer to keep at least 2-3 plates spinning to maintain the natural order of things.

I'm not the best looking guy out there by any means but I work on what I can work on. I think the a good piece advice I can give a budding DJis SELF - RESPECT - if how a girls treats you feels wrong 99% of the time it IS wrong, so dont put up with any sh*t.
 

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Thanks Sir, also you haven't been on AIM as of late...been checking up on AIM now and again, you dont come on much anymore.

#8: Thanks for the sound advice, so glad people backing me. I'm having a small motivational problem with working out, cant get back into it, grr. I'll conquer it.

I need to get into it though. I've posted this, now it's time to start the ACTION part, the most important part of anything. So, here goes. Keep updated people (specially Wes and Rollo;)) and keep me motivated, and hopefully I may inspire some of you into improving yourself. :)

Good luck to me and to all of you

From Ben ;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First Update..And it's not a good one.

Time to make my first update. It's not a good one. Everything is going horribly wrong right now. No respect, No women, No hot body, No nothing. Right now, I've done NOTHING. I dunno, I just can't stick to ANYTHING. I'm so frustrated with myself, and with the people I interact with. Although, I suppose it's my fault for being such an annoying little B*stard, and that's why they dont like me.
I just wish, instead of saying "God, I WISH I had this, or this, or this!" I would actually DO something instead of procrastinating or thinking I cant do it, or it's a waste of time.
Pfft, need to change..Ah well:down:
 

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SilverSonnet said:
Time to make my first update. It's not a good one. Everything is going horribly wrong right now. No respect, No women, No hot body, No nothing. Right now, I've done NOTHING. I dunno, I just can't stick to ANYTHING. I'm so frustrated with myself, and with the people I interact with. Although, I suppose it's my fault for being such an annoying little B*stard, and that's why they dont like me.
I just wish, instead of saying "God, I WISH I had this, or this, or this!" I would actually DO something instead of procrastinating or thinking I cant do it, or it's a waste of time.
Pfft, need to change..Ah well:down:

Uggh, self pity is such a wankerous emotion. To be fair, you're 14 and sticking to anything IS hard at your age.

You got two choices mate, man up and do this sh!t, or leave us alone. Softly, softly aint working anymore.

I'll write that under everypost you make until you do one or the other. Don't give anyone any advice, don't give tips, nothing until you've sorted yourself out.
 

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Woop. Feeling so great right now. Skins just about cleared up. My tan's coming back, and FINALLY after some kick's in the ass, I've got myself sorted out. I work out regularly, and I'm making good progress. I go out ALOT, hell i just got GROUNDED for being so late back (9.30 pm, cmon I'm 14 :p) and I'm just really happy now.
And...I got A* on my very important humanities coursework. Yay! :D
 

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Congrats bro, all that success is awesome, feels good to achieve set out goals aye? I can tell your out heaps because your havent been on MSN lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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