"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Aight yall this gonna sound ****ing crazy for you guys... and for some of you aint even gonna believe me but its ok.. cuz im happy :D
Ok so right i was all depressed and I had no joy in life right.. I was literally more afraid of LIFE than death... I was afraid 2 talk 2 people.. i was even afraid 2 talk 2 my own parents wtf ???? I was going 2 kill myself one day... Then " CLICK "
Something in my brain went off... is started looking the world as like a video game... and that i was the main hero or character in it.. ( YOU follow ? ) I know i should be in a psycho hospital.... But hell nah!!!! My life is so ****ing GREAT !!! This is explained by the post Cartography of Hell.. WHich describes that the human mind is never really accurate and it actually seperates reality from reality itself.... Listen i know its gettin really complicated but i basically look at my life as a video game now... like a 1st person shooter :cool: Wow look at this guy how fucin nerdy he is what a looser you guys are probably sayin.... BUt i bet that my life is 100x more funner than you guys cuz i got nothin restrictin me.... My reality is almost like a fantasy.. almost like a heaven ( like a dream come true ) If anybody in here can see life in this kind of prospective you know the joy i am experiencin right now :up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No worries if that's what helps you cope. HOWEVER,

"like a 1st person shooter ...i got nothin restrictin me.... My reality is almost like a fantasy"

This sounds dangerous to me. You have to realize that the reality that most people agree to recognize, regardless of how artificial it may be, helps maintain order. There are ways to live with fewer restrictions (pursuing the kind of life you want) without going off the deep end (turning from thinking of yourself as a first-person shooter into actually being a shooter).

Good luck. Be careful.
 

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It's only bad when you think life is like Grand Theft Auto and you go around on a killing spree. But, yes I understand what you are saying. Life is what you make it so keep doing what your doing to be happy!
 

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Careful though, you can't save and load in real life! Too bad I know, but if you die in this game, you die for real too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This goes back to the reality/perception debate.
 

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subjective reality. But, this means the OP is just a manifestation of my own consciousness. So essentially, you have me to thank for this thread. Or, I have myself to thank for this thread.
 

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Well as long as you didn't have a nervous breakdown and go insane then good for you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DjSoOHain said:
listen man im doin so well im considerin of runnin for presidnet ( no jk ) :)
props to you, but just make sure when you are president nobody finds out your secret identity from here. That would be kind of funny to find out the leader of the free world is hallucinating himself in a first person shooter game.

But seriously, thanks for the post. Its a helpful way to look at things.

rep :up:
 

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This post made me laugh, because that's how I always viewed relationships. It's a video game, and if you fail you start over with the next girl until you get really good at it. lol
 

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np yall and don you worry about a thing nobody will ever find out about my identity :) everybody should look at the world in this kind of prospective... if you had the ability 2 look at it in this way then it woudnt be like gta it would be much more beautiful and better
 

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good concept, poor explanation

i understand why it works for you, but you don't explain what you get out of pretending that life is a video game
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LIfe is a VIDEO GAME!!! TEll me what's the difference between life and video game??? You only get 1 life but all the concepts are the same... If you really think about it.. it really aint rocket science.. for one game that really influenced me was elder scrolls morrowind :D so go check it out ( Bethesda needs 2 pay me for this LOLZ!! ) I know your thinking thats not life.. life is way too complicated, it simply cannot be like that... but have you ever tried it ??? Life does not need to be this complicated and this boring.. And besides you are going to die one day anyways might as well live in your own lil heaven .. i do
 

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What i get??? What do i dont get ???? Im not afraid of almost anything.... my daily life is so much fun.. like a video game i increase all various aspects of my life such as my skills and etc.... Listen man imagine if you could really control yourself like a video game.. i bet you guys woud be doin the unthinkable :) im sorry i guess im the only 1 capable of doin dis..
 

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Now what makes you think you have only one life? Obviously once you have a game over you can start again with a different player.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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