"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aight yall this gonna sound ****ing crazy for you guys... and for some of you aint even gonna believe me but its ok.. cuz im happy :D
Ok so right i was all depressed and I had no joy in life right.. I was literally more afraid of LIFE than death... I was afraid 2 talk 2 people.. i was even afraid 2 talk 2 my own parents wtf ???? I was going 2 kill myself one day... Then " CLICK "
Something in my brain went off... is started looking the world as like a video game... and that i was the main hero or character in it.. ( YOU follow ? ) I know i should be in a psycho hospital.... But hell nah!!!! My life is so ****ing GREAT !!! This is explained by the post Cartography of Hell.. WHich describes that the human mind is never really accurate and it actually seperates reality from reality itself.... Listen i know its gettin really complicated but i basically look at my life as a video game now... like a 1st person shooter :cool: Wow look at this guy how fucin nerdy he is what a looser you guys are probably sayin.... BUt i bet that my life is 100x more funner than you guys cuz i got nothin restrictin me.... My reality is almost like a fantasy.. almost like a heaven ( like a dream come true ) If anybody in here can see life in this kind of prospective you know the joy i am experiencin right now :up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No worries if that's what helps you cope. HOWEVER,

"like a 1st person shooter ...i got nothin restrictin me.... My reality is almost like a fantasy"

This sounds dangerous to me. You have to realize that the reality that most people agree to recognize, regardless of how artificial it may be, helps maintain order. There are ways to live with fewer restrictions (pursuing the kind of life you want) without going off the deep end (turning from thinking of yourself as a first-person shooter into actually being a shooter).

Good luck. Be careful.
 

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It's only bad when you think life is like Grand Theft Auto and you go around on a killing spree. But, yes I understand what you are saying. Life is what you make it so keep doing what your doing to be happy!
 

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Careful though, you can't save and load in real life! Too bad I know, but if you die in this game, you die for real too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This goes back to the reality/perception debate.
 

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subjective reality. But, this means the OP is just a manifestation of my own consciousness. So essentially, you have me to thank for this thread. Or, I have myself to thank for this thread.
 

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Well as long as you didn't have a nervous breakdown and go insane then good for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DjSoOHain said:
listen man im doin so well im considerin of runnin for presidnet ( no jk ) :)
props to you, but just make sure when you are president nobody finds out your secret identity from here. That would be kind of funny to find out the leader of the free world is hallucinating himself in a first person shooter game.

But seriously, thanks for the post. Its a helpful way to look at things.

rep :up:
 

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This post made me laugh, because that's how I always viewed relationships. It's a video game, and if you fail you start over with the next girl until you get really good at it. lol
 

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np yall and don you worry about a thing nobody will ever find out about my identity :) everybody should look at the world in this kind of prospective... if you had the ability 2 look at it in this way then it woudnt be like gta it would be much more beautiful and better
 

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good concept, poor explanation

i understand why it works for you, but you don't explain what you get out of pretending that life is a video game
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LIfe is a VIDEO GAME!!! TEll me what's the difference between life and video game??? You only get 1 life but all the concepts are the same... If you really think about it.. it really aint rocket science.. for one game that really influenced me was elder scrolls morrowind :D so go check it out ( Bethesda needs 2 pay me for this LOLZ!! ) I know your thinking thats not life.. life is way too complicated, it simply cannot be like that... but have you ever tried it ??? Life does not need to be this complicated and this boring.. And besides you are going to die one day anyways might as well live in your own lil heaven .. i do
 

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What i get??? What do i dont get ???? Im not afraid of almost anything.... my daily life is so much fun.. like a video game i increase all various aspects of my life such as my skills and etc.... Listen man imagine if you could really control yourself like a video game.. i bet you guys woud be doin the unthinkable :) im sorry i guess im the only 1 capable of doin dis..
 

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Now what makes you think you have only one life? Obviously once you have a game over you can start again with a different player.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

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