"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My second though.. this might require more skilled than planned..

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So I thought gaming a new chick would be an easy catch. Apparently not. She was digging it at first, and seemed interested. Maybe I asked too many questions and came off AFC.. but after awhile, she was kinda just giving me one word answers, and kind of shutting the conversation down. I still tried to make it work, being the kind of conversationalist I am.. perhaps it made it worse I don't know. She said she didn't have many friends, so I invited her to chill with me and my buddies, and she said she "might take me up on that offer". So I don't know. She must had gotten the sense I was hitting on her because she mentions the fact she likes somebody right now. She is kinda emo, so I think she is in one of those retarded puppy-love-crush stages.. gah, I hate chicks like that. But this chick is cute.. how can I convert her interest over to me? Without seeming so damn AFC.. she's giving me really mixed signals right now. This is requiring more game than I had originally planned..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Can you post the convo and any other details about what happened?
 

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She told you she likes someone else. But she is giving you signals. I'd translate that as her thinking you are a second option or trying to make you work hard for her.

**** that!

Back off. Don't contact for a week or so. If she calls don't answer.

If you keep expending energy to pull her in she will just have contempt for you. Push her away a bit.

She's not earning your attention by just giving you one word answers. She's definately not earning the right to hang with your crew.

Make her work a bit for your attention and teach her that she's gotta show you some respect.

If she doesn't play then you know its not meant to be.
JJ
 

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Jay Jay said:
She told you she likes someone else. But she is giving you signals. I'd translate that as her thinking you are a second option or trying to make you work hard for her.

**** that!

Back off. Don't contact for a week or so. If she calls don't answer.

If you keep expending energy to pull her in she will just have contempt for you. Push her away a bit.

She's not earning your attention by just giving you one word answers. She's definately not earning the right to hang with your crew.

Make her work a bit for your attention and teach her that she's gotta show you some respect.

If she doesn't play then you know its not meant to be.
JJ

Exactly. JJ is giving you the correct advice.
 

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Thanks JJ, good advice. I'll put it to use.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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