Hey, will this be a good thing or a bad thing for me? I have a roommate which I am crazy about(infatuated with/ lusting over/ in love with etc...) We also work together. She is moving back home because of school, she can't afford to live with me, which I understand.
Anyway, awhile ago, we were getting close making out hugging a lot, I was thinking soon we will be boyfriend girlfriend, awesome! One night we were sleeping next to each other and ended up dry humping, lol. Her family is super religious(Mormons), so to her that might of been like 3rd base. Anyway, after that she did a 180 on me and a week later she started dating a guy(Mormon). Well, they aren't together anymore after about a month. I also found out during that time she told one of our good friends who's like a father to her, that she thinks I am too feminine and stuff and we just don't connect, but that she has a lot of respect for me. I really am not feminine(nice guy), but I get that way around girls I like. Yes, I become the nice guy.....
Ok, I realize I did all the wrong things, like being around her all the time, telling her how amazing she is and that she lightens up my world when she's around me. Always giving her massages. Doing nice things for her etc... Ugh, I am so stupid. But, when things are going so well in your head you just sometimes don't think what you're doing could be destroying things in the long run. I also noticed she never does anything for me. Never asks about my life, it's always about her life and what's happening with it. Like I am shoulder to cry on. Ok, so I am an AFC. I did all the wrong things. I have learned a lot from this website.
So, my problem is... I want her. I know I need to move on. But, I want her! lol. I still feel there is a spark that can be lit in her. When we talk she looks me in the eyes. She lets me massage her butt! we talk a lot. I am a good looking guy. I workout. I am slim though.
My question is, will her moving out be a good thing? Maybe she will miss me, or just forget about me faster. Will it help me get over her, or just feel like I have a void in me with not seeing her around anymore. Like any guy I MB, haha probably a lot. I can only get off thinking of her and no one else. I know I am too obsessive and that's not good. I guess I kinda know the answers to my questions, but it helps to have reinforcement.
Can a girl go from liking you a lot to putting you in the friend zone to liking you again... Is it possible at all??? I will say with all my ex's I acted the same way(afc), once we broke up though, I didn't take crap from them. I distanced myself from them, they all wanted me back. But, I never took them back. I am just hoping with this girl, that if she moves out, she will start missing me. I will man up and she will want me!
I guess I am just venting...how do you guys have the mentality to not get attached to girls. I can read all the link on this site, but I just don't know how to not get a attached to one girl. ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, awhile ago, we were getting close making out hugging a lot, I was thinking soon we will be boyfriend girlfriend, awesome! One night we were sleeping next to each other and ended up dry humping, lol. Her family is super religious(Mormons), so to her that might of been like 3rd base. Anyway, after that she did a 180 on me and a week later she started dating a guy(Mormon). Well, they aren't together anymore after about a month. I also found out during that time she told one of our good friends who's like a father to her, that she thinks I am too feminine and stuff and we just don't connect, but that she has a lot of respect for me. I really am not feminine(nice guy), but I get that way around girls I like. Yes, I become the nice guy.....
Ok, I realize I did all the wrong things, like being around her all the time, telling her how amazing she is and that she lightens up my world when she's around me. Always giving her massages. Doing nice things for her etc... Ugh, I am so stupid. But, when things are going so well in your head you just sometimes don't think what you're doing could be destroying things in the long run. I also noticed she never does anything for me. Never asks about my life, it's always about her life and what's happening with it. Like I am shoulder to cry on. Ok, so I am an AFC. I did all the wrong things. I have learned a lot from this website.
So, my problem is... I want her. I know I need to move on. But, I want her! lol. I still feel there is a spark that can be lit in her. When we talk she looks me in the eyes. She lets me massage her butt! we talk a lot. I am a good looking guy. I workout. I am slim though.
My question is, will her moving out be a good thing? Maybe she will miss me, or just forget about me faster. Will it help me get over her, or just feel like I have a void in me with not seeing her around anymore. Like any guy I MB, haha probably a lot. I can only get off thinking of her and no one else. I know I am too obsessive and that's not good. I guess I kinda know the answers to my questions, but it helps to have reinforcement.
Can a girl go from liking you a lot to putting you in the friend zone to liking you again... Is it possible at all??? I will say with all my ex's I acted the same way(afc), once we broke up though, I didn't take crap from them. I distanced myself from them, they all wanted me back. But, I never took them back. I am just hoping with this girl, that if she moves out, she will start missing me. I will man up and she will want me!
I guess I am just venting...how do you guys have the mentality to not get attached to girls. I can read all the link on this site, but I just don't know how to not get a attached to one girl. ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!