Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My Relationship.

LinkinParkROX

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This is definitely a first for me. I'm not exactly the most serious guy around. I play with women, have my fun with fbs and all that. Recently, I've found myself in a relationship with a woman I like. The problem is, the whole relationship thing is totally new to me. I'm pretty much used to casual sex and a "do I know you?" the morning after. The thing here, is I actually care about keeping this one. She told me that her longest relationship lasted only a week. I deduced (and she confirmed) that it came from guys being too nice/AFC, reeking of desperation, buying her gifts, caling her, and thus being a turn off. Which is why she broke up with them. I mean, this is pretty basic stuff that every Don Juan/rAFC knows. What I do know, is that she is madly in love with me, and shows it everywhere possible. Her AIM nickname is even Abby <3 [LinkinParkROX].

Since we got into the relationship, for some reason I keep trying to keep her, reminding myself of her longest relationship being a week long. This is totally fucking up my game. It's going to lead to her being the prize if I keep in contact. I haven't been in good contact because of this very reason. Up until now I've easily maintained my position as the prize, and she's been pitifully trying to impress me & show off her "life". It's nice that she's trying, but that's coming out of her knowing my extreme high value and trying to catch up. I can tell. We had a date on thursday with very very intense stuff happening, and since then, I haven't called at all. I did happen to see her on AIM a day and a half later and say hi, hold up a short conversation, disappearing after she got excited, leaving her wanting more but not exactly giving it to her.

Also, I pass by these girlie gift shops at malls, and she's the first thing on my mind. I then tell myself "No. I'm the Don Juan, the prize. She's gonna be the one buying the gifts. " and walk away. Basically, I need to reassure myself. I plan on keeping this one, and have no idea how to do so. I guess being my regular unchanged Don Juan self should do the trick. But this is messed up, I actually wondered how long to wait before I call her, taking into consideration the 3-day rule and all that hoohaa. I've never had to do this before. I also am afraid to stay out of contact for too long or she might lose interest, which is why I was on AIM today. Also our intense moments from thursday keep playing back in my head & I want to go out again and do it again, but am not asking her out because it'd be too soon and it's good to be a rare commodity and all that. This is fucked up. My first real relationship. How do I keep it without being this way? Damn. I haven't felt this fucked up in a long time.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Captain

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The most important thing in a relationship is being willing to let her go.

LinkinParkROX said:
The thing here, is I actually care about keeping this one
This is where men screw up. They they thin "I can't lose this girl", and start acting needy. You don't act differently in a relationship, you keep doing what works.

Since we got into the relationship, for some reason I keep trying to keep her, reminding myself of her longest relationship being a week long.
Stop trying to "keep" her. It'll only push her away.
 

pua1989

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wow dude ive been wondering this exact thing for a while now im at the same stage
 
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