Alright I know we have had the "dealing with parents threads," before. But this is way different.
My dad grew up kind of poor with conservative parents. He had meals and all of that but never had any luxuries. He spent all of his weekends working with his dad basically on a farm. Or someother way to help his dad. My mom was in a fairly average income family. Her parents treated her and her sisters well. Took them places and all of that. Remind you they were born in the 50's.
My parents know both work for the government. They've took classes on psychology and presenting people things in good ways. Yes weird classes. They know when people are lying because they had to learn how to identify that. They've worked their for awhile and they seem to be good at it. They have all the training to do identify liars, make deals, and convince people into things they may not want to do.
My dad has also spent his money on real estate. He's made a lot of money on that. He's obviously a smart guy. My grandparents and others were even commenting on how well he does on that. We don't live in a nice house with a government salary.
That was the background. Now see because my parents can do all these things it makes me wonder when I talk with them or try to get them to let me do something. They ALWAYS end up winning in some way or another. For instance I'm just outside sitting on the balcony on our hotel watching the city when my dad tells me to come inside. I ask "why?" He says with his eyes like flaring "You're being disrespectful. Come in now or you'll see what will happen." I get that a lot. My dad seems to be superficial and wishing it was the 50's again. If I wanted to go outside to a party I'm just guessing I won't have a chance. Hell I can't even sneak out because my dad can wake up to any kind of sound now. Seriously I was sneaking out one time and I was moving SO slow and just walked into the hallway. My dad has been asleep for about 30 mins and he yells "Why are you awake!?"
I just don't know how I'm going to be able to do anything. It's either his way or ...I don't know. I want to be able to go a lot of parties and stay out late at night. But how would be the best way to approach this? This isn't a very straight forward question but let me sum it up for you.
How's the best way to deal with a dad who works at the government, wishes it was the 50's again and is superficial?
My dad grew up kind of poor with conservative parents. He had meals and all of that but never had any luxuries. He spent all of his weekends working with his dad basically on a farm. Or someother way to help his dad. My mom was in a fairly average income family. Her parents treated her and her sisters well. Took them places and all of that. Remind you they were born in the 50's.
My parents know both work for the government. They've took classes on psychology and presenting people things in good ways. Yes weird classes. They know when people are lying because they had to learn how to identify that. They've worked their for awhile and they seem to be good at it. They have all the training to do identify liars, make deals, and convince people into things they may not want to do.
My dad has also spent his money on real estate. He's made a lot of money on that. He's obviously a smart guy. My grandparents and others were even commenting on how well he does on that. We don't live in a nice house with a government salary.
That was the background. Now see because my parents can do all these things it makes me wonder when I talk with them or try to get them to let me do something. They ALWAYS end up winning in some way or another. For instance I'm just outside sitting on the balcony on our hotel watching the city when my dad tells me to come inside. I ask "why?" He says with his eyes like flaring "You're being disrespectful. Come in now or you'll see what will happen." I get that a lot. My dad seems to be superficial and wishing it was the 50's again. If I wanted to go outside to a party I'm just guessing I won't have a chance. Hell I can't even sneak out because my dad can wake up to any kind of sound now. Seriously I was sneaking out one time and I was moving SO slow and just walked into the hallway. My dad has been asleep for about 30 mins and he yells "Why are you awake!?"
I just don't know how I'm going to be able to do anything. It's either his way or ...I don't know. I want to be able to go a lot of parties and stay out late at night. But how would be the best way to approach this? This isn't a very straight forward question but let me sum it up for you.
How's the best way to deal with a dad who works at the government, wishes it was the 50's again and is superficial?