my rejection story

[Unregistered]

**Just for starters, I am not posting this looking for advice, encouragement, or disdain. I know how to handle rejection. I'm ok with it. I am simply posting this because I'm sure many here can relate to and probably chuckle to themselves in recognition of this classic situation.
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I called her up to make plans for our already agreed-upon date on Friday. She didn’t answer, so I left a message. 20 minutes later she called me back.

We bull****ted for about a minute, and then I started talking about where we were going on Friday. Before I got 5 words out, she interrupted me nervously with “yeah…. that’s what I needed to talk to you about”. Right then, with those words in that strangled tone of voice, I knew it wasn’t happening. The only question was whether it wasn’t happening Friday or it wasn’t happening ever. I got my answer soon enough. A couple sentences in, the phrases “there’s this other guy”… “things happened really fast last weekend”…“kind of dating each other” …“wouldn’t be fair”… “felt so bad about having to tell you”… hit me in the gut like a left hook, setting me up for the money shot, the clincher, the uppercut knockout….

“I think you’re an awesome guy”

Ah, yes! The old cliché! “I think you’re an awesome guy!!!” It wouldn’t be a proper beating without it!

"I think you're an awesome guy!!!! Just not as awesome as the guy who has his scrotal marks permanently imprinted into your chin, right???

"I think you're an awesome guy!!!! But you'd rather give a hand-job to a leper, right?

"I think you're an awesome guy!!!! Then fellate me now, woman.

But you understand, I’m sure. An awesome guy such as yourself understands the circumstances behind this rejection, I assume? Well, yeah, actually I do, I sure do, but ****. ****! You don’t win the girl this time, Contestant #2, but here’s your great consolation prize….a meaningless, insincere compliment!!!!! I wonder what the statistics are for “awesome guys”, “really great guys” “such sweet guys” getting laid. Not too high, I’d wager. Another interesting thing, the last two times (well, actually the only two times) I’ve gotten that speech, it’s always “kind of have a boyfriend” “kind of dating”. Never an absolute. Break him in gently; don’t make him bleed just yet.

F*cking women, man. Remember, there is always another guy.

 

[blinkwatt]

Had that happen to me recently except we went out once before the dreaded ender. She mentioned something on out date of just breaking up with her bf and I paid no attention. Called her up for another date(keep in mind we made out on first date so I thought all was well) and she said "Iam back together with my boyfriend". That was followed by "I dont want to lose you,your hecka tight"(yes I know sounds stupid) and "Call me up sometime". Women,cant live with them,cant live without them.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Don't beat yourself up over it.

Just go meet some other girls.

 

[S1NN3R]

A couple sentences in, the phrases “there’s this other guy”…

Dude, she would have heard the click of my phone closing before she finished the word "guy". Right about at the "u", I think. Yup, all I would have heard is "there's this other gu.........."

 

[john_1234]

i don't know if sinner was being serious or not, but what do you guys think about hanging up on her like that? i'm guessing that w/ some girls, they'd actually get turned on by that while some of course would get turned off. i think i might try that if some girl pulls those lines on me

 

[S1NN3R]

Hell yeah, I'm serious. Really. And I wouldn't be doing it to try to turn her on or raise her interest level either, it's just that at that point I would have heard everything I needed to hear, and anything she said after that would just sound like the adults in Peanuts cartoons. "there's this other guy and waa waaa wa wa waaaaa waaaa, wa waaa wa wa." Especially if we hadn't even had the first date yet. That's why, *click*, add to Do Not Call list.

It was nice of your girl to at least be up front about it, she could have just skipped on you. I guess she deserves some credit there, but then to cheapen it with the "awesome guy" stuff. I mean, how insufficient is that? Come on. She should have just let it go at "I'm getting serious with this other guy, I aplogize."

You seem to be handling it well though.

 

[thederekeffect1]

Don't hang up on her. Especially if you're going to hang up on her before she finishes her sentence. Then you're just *****ing out from what has to be said, anyway. A simple, "alright, it's cool" will do. Then you can make up an excuse to hang up, "I'm sort of busy right now, I gotta go". Ended.

 

[S1NN3R]

Then you're just *****ing out from what has to be said, anyway.

In my opinion, what has to be said, has been said at that point.

A simple, "alright, it's cool" will do. Then you can make up an excuse to hang up, "I'm sort of busy right now, I gotta go". Ended.

That would probably be the better method of handling it, but I'm not that patient.

 

[spider_007]

.....cant live without them.

that's what you think

 

[xanderbaz]

Had that happen to me recently except we went out once before the dreaded ender. She mentioned something on out date of just breaking up with her bf and I paid no attention. Called her up for another date(keep in mind we made out on first date so I thought all was well) and she said "Iam back together with my boyfriend". That was followed by "I dont want to lose you,your hecka tight"(yes I know sounds stupid) and "Call me up sometime". Women,cant live with them,cant live without them.

Been there, lived through it, MOVED THE **** ON!
Go out and meet other interesting women, there's plenty for all of us.

 

[S1NN3R]

That was followed by "I dont want to lose you,your hecka tight"(yes I know sounds stupid) and "Call me up sometime".

Play it. Insinuate yourself into her life. Make her think of you constantly. She sounds wishy washy about her boyfriend, almost like she got back with him because it was easy or he somehow convinced her against her better judgement. Play it, you can pull it off.

Even if she just wants the attention of knowing that you like her and will pursue her, you don't have that much to lose. Keep up the rest of the game, but definitely work this one.

 

[Unregistered]

Don't hang up on her. Especially if you're going to hang up on her before she finishes her sentence. Then you're just *****ing out from what has to be said, anyway. A simple, "alright, it's cool" will do. Then you can make up an excuse to hang up, "I'm sort of busy right now, I gotta go". Ended.

That's pretty much what I did, except I didn't make an excuse to hang up, just said, "well, good luck, bye".

 

[cactus3178]

F*cking women, man. Remember, there is always another guy.

And there's always another girl.

Get to it.