"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My recent negativity

Magma

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I am going to publicly apologize on here for my recent negativity. Although I may disagree with perspectives on here on occasion, I understand that recently my responses have been overly negative and may have a tone of moral superiority.

I have recently discovered that my father has leukemia. I am not taking it well, and it is coming out in many of my posts here at SS. I am going to take a break from SS for awhile to focus on supporting my father and his illness.

When problems arise in life, I use my personal experience to guide me. I have no personal guide in this matter. My father means the world to me, and I am not dealing with this very well. So I apologize for being such an ass lately. Understand that I am a human being, and that I am trying to deal with this in the best way possible.

To compound the situation, I am going to be in Africa when my father begins his chemotherapy. I feel very guilty about this.

So again, I want to apologize for my negativity as of late.

Peace...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KontrollerX

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Well for what its worth I haven't found your posts to be negative at all recently but maybe I haven't read the ones you are thinking of.

In anycase man I'm sorry about your dad getting this sh!t.

My dad died from malignant melanoma skin cancer a few years back and his diagnosis was pretty much fatal but with Leukemia I'm pretty sure you've got a 50/50 shot so I hope your dad makes it but its going to be a tough battle.
 

Desert Fox

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Best wishes bro...hang in there, don't give up, don't let you dad give up, and PUSH THROUGH THIS!!!!!
 

ljm

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Magma.....if you ever need the support feel free to pm whenever you like. I lost my father two years ago in a road bike accident and that took the guidance out of my life....thats why i find myself here alot of the time so I can still find guidance. I really dont know what to say, all I can think of is keep your head up, stay strong like an ox...and have the heart of a lion through this. Peace .
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BMX

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My mother came down with leukemia back in February and let me tell you, this has been the worst nightmare of a semester I could possibly live through. I'm going full-time with school and taking care of the home inside and out all by myself, on top of that cooking as well.

My father, who I've never been nowhere as close to as my mother is always caught up in his work and taking off to see her as well (as do I) and his closed-mindedness has made me leave the house for hours on end at times. All I've gotta say is, it'll hit him how much of an impact I've made when I finally leave for my new school in 3 months. Tending to this 5,000 sq. ft. beast is not easy, but when I get my own apartment one day, it will be easier.

My brother stops by once or twice a week and since my dad is closer to him, he always asks me stupid questions about him that I have no answers to sometimes, but he never asks about me. Tending to my mother has made me forgetful often, exhausted and more difficult recovery from my workouts.

It is my newest goal, to raise awareness for leukemia through road bicycling and I would like this to happen throughout my upcoming Division-I career. I'm gonna go on a nice ride in a few. Feel free to PM me anytime.
 
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