"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My recent negativity

Magma

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I am going to publicly apologize on here for my recent negativity. Although I may disagree with perspectives on here on occasion, I understand that recently my responses have been overly negative and may have a tone of moral superiority.

I have recently discovered that my father has leukemia. I am not taking it well, and it is coming out in many of my posts here at SS. I am going to take a break from SS for awhile to focus on supporting my father and his illness.

When problems arise in life, I use my personal experience to guide me. I have no personal guide in this matter. My father means the world to me, and I am not dealing with this very well. So I apologize for being such an ass lately. Understand that I am a human being, and that I am trying to deal with this in the best way possible.

To compound the situation, I am going to be in Africa when my father begins his chemotherapy. I feel very guilty about this.

So again, I want to apologize for my negativity as of late.

Peace...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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KontrollerX

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Well for what its worth I haven't found your posts to be negative at all recently but maybe I haven't read the ones you are thinking of.

In anycase man I'm sorry about your dad getting this sh!t.

My dad died from malignant melanoma skin cancer a few years back and his diagnosis was pretty much fatal but with Leukemia I'm pretty sure you've got a 50/50 shot so I hope your dad makes it but its going to be a tough battle.
 

Desert Fox

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Best wishes bro...hang in there, don't give up, don't let you dad give up, and PUSH THROUGH THIS!!!!!
 

ljm

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Magma.....if you ever need the support feel free to pm whenever you like. I lost my father two years ago in a road bike accident and that took the guidance out of my life....thats why i find myself here alot of the time so I can still find guidance. I really dont know what to say, all I can think of is keep your head up, stay strong like an ox...and have the heart of a lion through this. Peace .
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BMX

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My mother came down with leukemia back in February and let me tell you, this has been the worst nightmare of a semester I could possibly live through. I'm going full-time with school and taking care of the home inside and out all by myself, on top of that cooking as well.

My father, who I've never been nowhere as close to as my mother is always caught up in his work and taking off to see her as well (as do I) and his closed-mindedness has made me leave the house for hours on end at times. All I've gotta say is, it'll hit him how much of an impact I've made when I finally leave for my new school in 3 months. Tending to this 5,000 sq. ft. beast is not easy, but when I get my own apartment one day, it will be easier.

My brother stops by once or twice a week and since my dad is closer to him, he always asks me stupid questions about him that I have no answers to sometimes, but he never asks about me. Tending to my mother has made me forgetful often, exhausted and more difficult recovery from my workouts.

It is my newest goal, to raise awareness for leukemia through road bicycling and I would like this to happen throughout my upcoming Division-I career. I'm gonna go on a nice ride in a few. Feel free to PM me anytime.
 
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