That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hams are normally naturally "weaker". However due to shape, some guys hams may "pop" more from the rear. IF you feel it's imbalanced, put in some ham work. Leg curls, glute hamstrock raise, lunges will get you those developed athletic looking hams that aren't on every day joes.
It doesn't bother me, I'm just wondering how I could get the rest of my body to get stronger without actually being big, just like my hams are. I guess you could say I'm aiming for that 'wiry' strength.
Get enough protein without getting too much "fuel" ( carbs ). Have enough to power you thru the day but not a lot more. Lift and excersize and you will grow. Amino acid supplements help. It takes time to put on meat.
But that's the thing, I don't want any more mass at all. I could just lift and get bigger without getting fatter. I burn more energy than most people do, so I could get mass without the fat fairly easily. I'm just looking to be like one of those freaks who are super strong/powerful but skinny as heck somehow. Strength without size, like those third worlders. Like CNS development I guess.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
For you to look stronger some NEW muscle will come on, IE: pounds.
No I mean I don't want to LOOK stronger, I want to BE stronger. I want to get stronger WITHOUT getting bigger.
You'll get a little bigger. Or some fat you have now will come off replace with harder muscle. You don't have a lot of fat on you, but there is some. You won't be "too big" if you gain 10lbs in strategic places. Imagine how much meat 10lb of steak is.
Ok that's fine. My main goal is to just be a lot stronger than I look. I'm comfortable with my physique right now. I always focused on strength whenever I exercised, any differences in looks was just a byproduct of training. Anyway, thanks for your input.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think its genetic. I work my quads so much more often, I rarely ever use my hamstrings to begin with. My muscular endurancw in my quads is a lot better though. Just nor strength or power.