"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My Progress

OpIvy

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I came here looking for a place to start in my workout, and after reading the stickies, I decided to make squats, dead lifts, and benches a large part of my routine. Here is my progress after 9 weeks, not counting the first week.

Squats: From 95 to 140lbs
Dead Lifts: From 60 to 100lbs
Bench: From 90 to 130

Pectoral fly: 85 to 125
Shoulder press: 55 to 80
Dumbbell back row: 30 to 50
Bicep curl (dumbbells): 20 to 25 (finally did 3 sets of 6 reps on 25, starting 30 tomorrow)
Tricep rope (pulling down on a cable): 35 to 50
Bicep machine: 50 to 56
Shrug: 40 to 55

Leg press machine (Just started, since I can't go past 90 degrees on the squat): 230
Leg curl: 95 to 140
Knee extention: 75 to 125

There's also some bull**** forearm exercise using dumbbells, but I won't list it. I'm going twice a week, each time doing all of these exercises and working my entire body. I practice form using a PVC pipe and by asking the trainers if I'm doing the exercise correctly. I do 3 sets of 4 to 6 reps on everything. Does anybody have any recommendations? I noticed my weight has not gone up by more than 6lbs even though I'm lifting more. Should I eat more?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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simon

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Why is the deadlift so low in comparison to the squat and bench?
 

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Good progress. Get working on that deadlift though, it should be your highest out of the big 3 (bench press, squat, deadlift), unless you have a long torso and short arms, still even with that it should be a lot higher than your bench press.
 

OpIvy

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I didn't know that. The deadlift is the most difficult for me to do. The trainer said that my torso and femurs are kind of long.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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OpIvy

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I went to the gym this morning and asked the trainer if I was doing my deadlifts properly. As it turns out, my shoulders were too far back, and I was able to lift more with my shoulders forward.

On a side not, next time, I get to bench press with a 45 on each side! It will be a good feeling.
(+) Mindset said:
Nice progress man. Keep working out!! =)
Thanks!
 

dirtysanchez

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OpIvy said:
I went to the gym this morning and asked the trainer if I was doing my deadlifts properly. As it turns out, my shoulders were too far back, and I was able to lift more with my shoulders forward.
Mechanics are very important with the deadlift. You basically want to be pulling the bar the least possible distance (which means standing close to the bar and having a narrow grip).
 

OpIvy

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I just found out that for size training, I would need to do 8-12 reps and rest for 1-2 minutes. I want size, not strength, so how should I adjust my workout? Should I keep the weight I have and build up to 12 reps over a couple weeks before increasing? Should I go down a few pounds on each workout and get in 12 reps on my next workout?
 

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OpIvy said:
I just found out that for size training, I would need to do 8-12 reps and rest for 1-2 minutes.
Don't be anal. You don't have to do 8-12. It won't make much difference, if any, or may even negatively impact you.

Progress in weights at pretty much any reasonable rep range and eat and you'll grow.
 

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Where are the ROWS, ******?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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