Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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OpIvy

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I came here looking for a place to start in my workout, and after reading the stickies, I decided to make squats, dead lifts, and benches a large part of my routine. Here is my progress after 9 weeks, not counting the first week.

Squats: From 95 to 140lbs
Dead Lifts: From 60 to 100lbs
Bench: From 90 to 130

Pectoral fly: 85 to 125
Shoulder press: 55 to 80
Dumbbell back row: 30 to 50
Bicep curl (dumbbells): 20 to 25 (finally did 3 sets of 6 reps on 25, starting 30 tomorrow)
Tricep rope (pulling down on a cable): 35 to 50
Bicep machine: 50 to 56
Shrug: 40 to 55

Leg press machine (Just started, since I can't go past 90 degrees on the squat): 230
Leg curl: 95 to 140
Knee extention: 75 to 125

There's also some bull**** forearm exercise using dumbbells, but I won't list it. I'm going twice a week, each time doing all of these exercises and working my entire body. I practice form using a PVC pipe and by asking the trainers if I'm doing the exercise correctly. I do 3 sets of 4 to 6 reps on everything. Does anybody have any recommendations? I noticed my weight has not gone up by more than 6lbs even though I'm lifting more. Should I eat more?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why is the deadlift so low in comparison to the squat and bench?
 

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Good progress. Get working on that deadlift though, it should be your highest out of the big 3 (bench press, squat, deadlift), unless you have a long torso and short arms, still even with that it should be a lot higher than your bench press.
 

OpIvy

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I didn't know that. The deadlift is the most difficult for me to do. The trainer said that my torso and femurs are kind of long.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OpIvy

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I went to the gym this morning and asked the trainer if I was doing my deadlifts properly. As it turns out, my shoulders were too far back, and I was able to lift more with my shoulders forward.

On a side not, next time, I get to bench press with a 45 on each side! It will be a good feeling.
(+) Mindset said:
Nice progress man. Keep working out!! =)
Thanks!
 

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OpIvy said:
I went to the gym this morning and asked the trainer if I was doing my deadlifts properly. As it turns out, my shoulders were too far back, and I was able to lift more with my shoulders forward.
Mechanics are very important with the deadlift. You basically want to be pulling the bar the least possible distance (which means standing close to the bar and having a narrow grip).
 

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I just found out that for size training, I would need to do 8-12 reps and rest for 1-2 minutes. I want size, not strength, so how should I adjust my workout? Should I keep the weight I have and build up to 12 reps over a couple weeks before increasing? Should I go down a few pounds on each workout and get in 12 reps on my next workout?
 

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OpIvy said:
I just found out that for size training, I would need to do 8-12 reps and rest for 1-2 minutes.
Don't be anal. You don't have to do 8-12. It won't make much difference, if any, or may even negatively impact you.

Progress in weights at pretty much any reasonable rep range and eat and you'll grow.
 

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Where are the ROWS, ******?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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