"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My Problem

Analyzeit

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Ok heres my problem, and it happens all the time....!

I met chicks, goes really well, i get numbers, maybe met up not by myself though, anyway this where my game crashes, I see em every now and then but then i just get LJBF or even less then that, can someone point me to a thread or something to help me with this part of the game.

thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That is the story bro lol didn't think i made it that difficult
 

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ok...my guess is your misreading interest levels.

maybe met up not by myself though
I'm guessing your bringing friend(s)

GO on your own.

We can teach you game here but we need more information.

Did you read the DJ Bible yet?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No man she brings the friends lol I did read the bible and i thought it may be being to nice but hey maybe i wasn't as less nice as best but i wasn't desperate, wasn't making to many AFC mistakes,

And i know there is interest just from mates saying, even asking her friends and they say so (which is bad but i didn't ask them to lol) , and then just normal signs, I mean there definitely interest,

But there probably could be more interest, so im kinda pointing it to that direction, that i get interest up quickly and stuff then they just slowly lose it, it horrible to see

And it happens all the time, but the 2nd last one got a bf after losing interest levels so that ones fairly explained
 

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Ok I read your reply and I understand.

When you get a positive IOI are you escalating to a kiss
ASAP?
 

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No this is exactly where i get fairly stuck lol and it gets worse i run outta conversation and hell brakes lose and im stuck once again

btw somehow i ran outta my ten posts lol i was bored late last night, just putting this in also now i can get a small amount of kino in, but for some reason we im from you have to be "going out" to hold hands and stuff maybe not kiss u still need right moment, so help with not just kino please lol

I don't escalate to anything lol and i dont think i kno how to
 
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Analyzeit said:
And it happens all the time, but the 2nd last one got a bf after losing interest levels so that ones fairly explained
well it looks like she had high interest level in you and then you dropped the ball so she became frustrated and went out with the other guy,

but yeah what the other guy said, perhaps you are not escalating enough for the kiss, that's what i think
also i believe there should be a thread on this in the DJ bible i'll check for the links
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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