"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My POF pictures, got SS' seal of approval?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Iceberg

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Good job.

You know what I'm especially proud of? That you're not one of those people who ONLY has pictures that they took of themselves.

It always creeps me out when some girl or a dude has nothing but pictures of themself standing in the bathroom mirror. Weird sh*t.

But you get a gold star, my friend.
 

Desdinova

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The pics are decent, but I think your actual profile could use re-vamping. But getting a guy's opinion on your pictures isn't going to help you. You need to put them to the test and see what kind of results you get.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Shivastorm_88

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Iceberg said:
Good job.

You know what I'm especially proud of? That you're not one of those people who ONLY has pictures that they took of themselves.

It always creeps me out when some girl or a dude has nothing but pictures of themself standing in the bathroom mirror. Weird sh*t.

But you get a gold star, my friend.
Yeah it screams "I have no social life nor any interests to show"
 

Shivastorm_88

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Hah pictures make the world of a difference! I spammed the same message to about 50 girls, in less than 2 hours I got 15 replies...

I remember I tried the same gig (same profile, same message, crappier pictures) and would get maybe 5-6 replies from 50 messages in a span of one or two days
 

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Shivastorm_88 said:
Hah pictures make the world of a difference! I spammed the same message to about 50 girls, in less than 2 hours I got 15 replies...

I remember I tried the same gig (same profile, same message, crappier pictures) and would get maybe 5-6 replies from 50 messages in a span of one or two days
online game comes too looks/status that's it, yeah game helps but its more look base

real talk
 

Shivastorm_88

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Solomon said:
online game comes too looks/status that's it, yeah game helps but its more look base

real talk
Yeah well I see the difference, once again... I guess some of the pictures (like the one in the plane or the one swimming) really helps out... Shows off interesting hobbies I have, an adventurous side I possess and then also acts as simple eye candy... Much is said through a few pictures.
 
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