Personality is the key to everything with women and I honestly think my personality is terrible, because people think i'm stupid, i'm annoying, and i'm mean. Now i really want to be a Don Juan trust me it's the most important thing to me. Why? because it will make my life better. So i want help creating a better personality can you help me? I would really appreciate it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My personality is terrible
- Thread starter Rint
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So describe how you would like your personality to be.
Well try to visualize what you would look and act like having those traits, and then try to emulate it. You really need to look at the things that make you insecure that make you do the things that make people see you as annoying and mean.
Have that ideal image of yourself and how you would act if you were that person. Try to copy the traits of people you admire if you can.
We can't really help you since we don't really know much about you yet, and this sort of thing doesnt happen overnight. It took me a LOT of time to get over my shyness of women, and even now I still have a LONG way to go to become the person I want to be.
Have that ideal image of yourself and how you would act if you were that person. Try to copy the traits of people you admire if you can.
We can't really help you since we don't really know much about you yet, and this sort of thing doesnt happen overnight. It took me a LOT of time to get over my shyness of women, and even now I still have a LONG way to go to become the person I want to be.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Keep pushing that comfort zone, man. It'll be pretty slow at first, but before you know it, you'll be getting so good you'll surprise yourself. You're 15, so you're probably just starting high school. It's gonna be tough, but make the best of every day you can. I wish I could go back a few years to high school. I would have taken up a team sport and actually talked to girls I was attracted to. It's amazing how the only things I've ever regretted in my life are things I didn't do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So list the things of what does a charming person does. How does a cool person act? What things make people look up to someone? What makes girls go crazy? What makes a person likable? Of these things, which do you feel most excited about incorporating into your life? Work on those things.Rint said:
This question is so open ended it's ridiculous. Rather than write the length of explanation that would be required, I'm going to give you the short cut to where you want to be:
- Meet some cool guy(s) who have the traits you want. Hang out with him/them. See how they act in different situations. It will rub off.
- Meet some cool guy(s) who have the traits you want. Hang out with him/them. See how they act in different situations. It will rub off.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep, be just like this guy and not create your own personality, just copy it from someone else.JJMcLure said:
Be like every AFC that's walking the streets, be a carbon copy lemming, it's much easier. Yep, it'll take less time and you'll get as much success out of it as the effort you put into it.Hanging out with naturals is a great way to see how successful guys pick up chicks. No need to take my advice, listen to any of the "well known" gurus (or should we ignore them too and listen to YOU instead - the KJ with 7,451 posts?). Riiiigghhht.Francisco d'Anconia said:Yep, be just like this guy and not create your own personality, just copy it from someone else.
You tried to twist my words for a reason only you know. Of course I didn't copy my personality from anyone - you made that up yourself. Try to post more constructively in future.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
See, this is what a typical AFC can only recognize, quantity. They can only see numbers (like posts). They are also easily led to believe that the more people who act a particular way (like naturals), it must be the best way to act. They are complete followers without the capacity of independent thought thus their copying of other's work.JJMcLure said:
Thanks for proving my premise.
I really need help and i dont really like copying others one cause i'll be unoriginal and 2 i dont know how to hang with the cool kids. I know a couple of them, but i cant just jump in a hang with them. I really want to build a good personality.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Rint said:
What do you feel is the cause of your current personality traits?
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Do you have any goals? Besides becoming a don.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good for you!Rint said:
Originality is a lost art. It's much easier to act like everyone else, the real work is finding out who you really are. It won't be easy, there are many adults who don't know themselves; but that's only because they've spent their entire lives being like everyone else.Define for yourself the character traits of what you would be proud have for your own. The advice that I will give you is that whatever you choose, it should be something that eventually feels comfortable to you. Doing that will make it a bit easier than copying the traits of other people, it will be more authentic.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Having charisma doesn't mean that people will respect you. Being charismatic just means that you can easily engage people but how they feel about you afterwards could be anything.Rint said:
Figure out why people ignore you. Who's ignoring you, when do they do it and what were you saying when they ignored you? How do you know that they are judging you, did they tell you? What did they say? Answering those questions will put you on the right track to identifying the real problem and finding a viable solution.