"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how about making a place comfortable for YOURSELF and inviting a woman there to have fun with YOU?

just a thought

my house is not what you would call a woman's hot spot.. I ripped the carpet out, every last ounce of it (i hate caret) and put in wooden floors... I portriats of old swing bands and older movies in my living room.. it's dim set (like a jazz club).. because that's what I LIKE. **** if a woman doesn't like it she can rent a hotel room and pay for it her damn self. I'm here more than she is and until she wants to go to the furniture gallery and buy some new **** she can shut up.


i'm done with my rant.
 

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decorate you walls with used condoms.. it carries the aura of a promising strong provocative mammal.
 

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ducaro said:
decorate you walls with used condoms.. it carries the aura of a promising strong provocative mammal.

lol, can't forget the zebra stripped bed sheets...gerrrrrrr!!!

I remember someone made a post about that and actually thought it was cool
 

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A valid point, backbreaker.

I just now realized that this post is coming off as if I am going to decorate my room with anything to make it more 'girl-friendly', but that is not the case. I want suggestions that you guys think would be good, and I use what I like.

Let me clarify, I'm not trying to seek the approval of females.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Make sure to have a decent tv and a nice dvd collection... I always invite girls over for movies and I like having a nice selection to choose from. Nice classy posters and not ones of Brooke Burke naked lol... I have martini glasses and other classy things in my room. You wanna separate yourself from all the other guys out there. Another thing, I have travel books to show women that I'm an adventurer. Your room represents who you are... Another thing stock it with some nice liquor too :)
 

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Actually what I did.. or used to do when I wasn't as fortunate as I am now.. Is I had a PC hooked up to my TV and I just downloaded movies to the PC, and I would turn the TV into a monitor and play the Movie..saves a **** load of money and you can have an unreal movie collection and it saves space.

I'm a book fanatic, so I have books everywhere, and horse racing memorabilia.. Nice sound system for my jazz/swing music... If you really want to do it get you a nice TV projector.. I got my first one when I was 20... I've been hooked sense.

My actual room is as basic as basic gets.. I'm never in there. Egyptian Cotton Sheets as well as a Silk Set of sheets for when..."company" comes over..but truth be told, I sleep outside (on the patio) or on the couch.. wherever I happen to be at when I doze off. **** it.

I keep drinks... for company but except the wine with my dinner or the iwne cooler when I'm watching a football game or getting ready to go out, I really don't drink myself anymore.

Have food. Keep something that you can cook.

I have a couple of pets (2 dogs, a parrot and some pet fish) so they all have their spot in the house.. however i"ve had my pets for so long that until you actually see the pets you wouldn't pets lived there. All of them are trained (you can't train fish).. they keep me company and they all have their own personalities.. even the fish when you watch them enough.

My weakness has been for a while old time classic movies. One trait I got from my dad. So in my living/entertainment room there are posters..which I have framed so they look more professional, of Sinatra, Humphrey Bogart, Sidney Pointer, the rat Pack, Julie London & Casablanca.

More so than anything.. keep it about you. don't' be afraid to be different.
 

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Candles.
Great stereo system. Place your speakers strategically.
Good sexy music available. The best thing is obviously burn your own compilation of your favorite music.
Lava lamps.
Large comfy sofa.
Must have some wine and alcohol in general handy.
Big a$$ bed, big enough for variety in positioning.
Big throw rug for special occasions.
Some interesting books or magazines on your table in the living room.
Have a camera handy.
Always have some scented massage oils handy.
And have a couple of places throught your pad within easy reach to store your condoms.
 

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Interceptor said:
Candles.
Great stereo system. Place your speakers strategically.
Good sexy music available. The best thing is obviously burn your own compilation of your favorite music.
Lava lamps.
Large comfy sofa.
Must have some wine and alcohol in general handy.
Big a$$ bed, big enough for variety in positioning.
Big throw rug for special occasions.
Some interesting books or magazines on your table in the living room.
Have a camera handy.
Always have some scented massage oils handy.
And have a couple of places throught your pad within easy reach to store your condoms.

You lost me with the lava lamps. But hey, its all about YOU! :crazy:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude!
I LOVE the Lava Lamps, dude!
I do.
Call me crazy, but they're nice when it's late at night and the lights are off.
Mmmmmm....Nice......


Love the Lamps! Love them! Touch them! Feel them!


:crackup:
 
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