My One-year goal thread

[Shivastorm_88]

This thread will be in relation with my other thread (the bootcamp). I decided to actively work on myself, instead of passively, and the bootcamp will only be part of the equation. I created a small list of long-term goals that I want to achieve by next year, which are:

LONG-TERM GOALS
1. Finish the boot camp (it’ll take less than a year)

1.a. Every month, do one of the exercise, and force myself to do it well​

2. Get rid of approach anxiety

2.a. Do the boot camp
2.b. Keep initiating conversations regularly (with everyone) throughout the year​

3. Stop being lazy (huge issue for me, I'm very lazy in some aspects of my life)

3.a. Don’t do later what I can do now​

4. Become a real man (using Pook’s definition in one of his articles)

4.a. Work on one aspect per month (in the short-term goal section)​

5. Help more around the house (I still live with my mom but don't do anything to help)



Furthermore, every month I will post my goals for the month, starting for February (will post it soon), and as the month go, or at the end of the month, I will post a status report (the detailed bootcamp portion will be in the other thread).


Link for my bootcamp thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180275

 

[Zarky]

2. Get rid of approach anxiety

As Mystery says, this is impossible. Approach anxiety is hardwired into your skull. However, you can "feel the fear and do it anyway."

 

[Shivastorm_88]

February short-term goal

SHORT-TERM GOALS
February
1. Do exercise #2 of the boot camp

a. One conversation per day​

2. Keep an up-to-date journal
3. At least two full-day outdoor activities (have to make time for that)
4. No more porn
5. Respect the promise I made to vacuum (see: help more around the house)
6. Read at least thirty minutes before bed
7. Yoga twice per week
8. Stop being lazy

a. Don’t do later what I can do now​

9. Be a man

a. Take action for what I want​

i. Stop being lazy
ii. If I want something, go for it. Do not hesitate​

10. No more HON (addictive computer game)

I will post status updates from times to times, or perhaps only one at the end of the month.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

As Mystery says, this is impossible. Approach anxiety is hardwired into your skull. However, you can "feel the fear and do it anyway."

True, I should change it to "learn to deal with approach anxiety". I basically want to be able to control it so it won't hold me back anymore.

 

[tempaccount2011]

You have too many goals and will get overwhelmed and quit. Focus on two major ones for now and go from there.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

You have too many goals and will get overwhelmed and quit. Focus on two major ones for now and go from there.

Bah all my short-term goals are baby-step goals, or things I already do and that I want to maintain. The only true hard goals are to finish the bootcamp and the stop being lazy part.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Entry Date: Monday, 12th February 2011

They were:

1. Do exercise #2 of the boot camp

a. One conversation per day​

2. Keep an up-to-date journal
3. At least two full-day outdoor activities (have to make time for that)
4. No more porn
5. Respect the promise I made to vacuum (see: help more around the house)
6. Read at least thirty minutes before bed
7. Yoga twice per week
8. Stop being lazy

a. Don’t do later what I can do now​

9. Be a man

a. Take action for what I want​

i. Stop being lazy
ii. If I want something, go for it. Do not hesitate​

10. No more HON (addictive computer game)

Alright, roughly two weeks so far, and I think I’ve been doing decent. Not great, but decent. I will go goal by goal to assess my current results. For goal #1 and #2, I have been doing pretty good. Although it has happened that some days I do no conversations, I started it before the actual month of February and I am quite consistent in it. Same for my journal, I keep it up-to-date.

For the goal #3, outdoor activities, I have done one of my two outdoor activities. I am not too worried about the second one, seeing as I have my spring break during February and have three days off.

Goal #4 has been perfectly respected, nothing hard there.

The goal #5 was to respect the promise I made to vacuum the house every week (part of my long-term goal to help more around the house to become more independent when I will move out) and so far it’s only been two weeks but I’m committing to it, and not slacking off. I'm even adding a bonus and washing the floor hahah.

Goal #6 was to read before I go to sleep. This one has been iffy, I’d say one day out of two I fail to respect this goal. This needs more work. After all, it’s an important goal and it helps calm my mind before I go to bed.

The seventh goal was to do the yoga twice a week, at least once Moksha, if not twice. I’ve subscribed to the gym and got 20 classes, so except for extraordinary events; I can expect that I will keep respecting this commitment. After all, I really love doing yoga, it’s an awesome exercise

Goal #8 is to stop being lazy and not push back to later what I can do. Although I do not actively think of this, I have become much more active altogether and I tend to do my school work as soon as I can. This goal is much harder to have concrete results, but I am constantly keeping it in mind.

The ninth goal goes hand in hand with the 8th, but it is a bit more specific. It is part of my “be a man” long-term goal. It has the “not being lazy part” but also the part where, if I want something, go for it without hesitation. I have been facing many of these moments where I knew what the right course of action was, but was hesitating because I was scared of the consequences or of change, but in the end I went with what had to be done. I basically did what I had to do.

Goal #10, the final, is the HON goal. This one isn’t going to well, but simply because right now I have so much free time. And the problem is, I still am not comfortable enough to go day-sarge, so if I don’t have to be out anywhere, after all my studies are done and I’ve read for a bit, sometimes I will cave in and play a game. However, I have reduced it by a lot. I no longer play 3-4 games a day, and with my day-to-day schedule that I decided to create, I feel my amount of HON gaming will greatly reduce.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

The solution to goal #10 was so simple. I simply deleted the game. I never really had the courage to do so, thinking that I might end up being bored if I don't have it to play... Guess I'll read more when I'm stuck at home!