"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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AlexTheGreat

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Alright guys, I think I need some help here ... I hung out tonight with a Tunisian girl who moved here last year (so she's not yet fully converted to americanism). This is probably the 3rd time I see her outside of class: we went for a quick coffee the other day, and had fun trying out couches and having convo in a store some time before.

During the couch-trial outting, I pulled her closer to me a few times, and I could see she was into me, playing with her hair, looking deep into my eyes and all. I didn't kiss her though (dumbass move).

A few days later, we came out of class and I proposed we go take a coffee. I brought her to this really cool place, we had coffee and convo and all, then I showed her around, once again putting my arm around her waist and stuff. She didn't seem to mind. Again, deep eye-contact, laughter, she looked comfortable and into me.

Today, we went to a club together, danced for an hour, had a load of fun, talked and everything. I showed her this really cool spot where the view is really nice. Again, I held her by the waist, by the hand, deep eye contact ...

I think it's pretty obvious I'm interested in her, that even she sees it. She doesn't seem to mind me holding her or me touching her, she looks comfortable around me, took a picture of me, and of us together.

However, I think there's something missing here. I think my bodylanguage should be more than clear that I'm interested, yet I don't know if she gets my true intentions or not. Should I just talk to her about it, or what's the best course to take here?
I see her on a very regular basis, as we have a lot of classes together at the university ..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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shock

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I agree.. I'm no expert but the whole "actions speak louder than words" phrase should come into play here.

She's stupid to not know your interested...she knows it. She also knows she's not going to make the first move. What do ya have to lose??

Good luck brother
 

AlexTheGreat

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Vanilla said:
Why haven't you kissed her yet?

cuz im a dumbass. lol

the couch-time place would've been the best but I think I was actually scared as we were in public (that plus she's muslim so I didn't know how she'd have reacted).

2nd time we left in a hurry

this time I was too gay to follow up. And now that I think back at it, I think I was waiting for her to do the move. grrrr I am my own worst enemy.

So how do I save this? You guys think I should try to see her tomorrow and fix it up?
 

shock

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I dunno... I'll take shi* for this, but if she's interested, yeah go for it. Set up a date.. I mean sure you could "wait a few days" but if you guys are having fun, and thier is interest then yeah go for it.

Mix it up though... coffee just seems so formal, take her out and do something involving action, and fun. Get her to smile and laugh..and feel involved. Definately kiss her though man...she's waiting for it at this point.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Man the way you explained your dates with her it sounds to me like you if you were in a semi-private location you could've went for the kiss and commenced to removing her clothing..and the rest is history.
 
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