"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright guys, I think I need some help here ... I hung out tonight with a Tunisian girl who moved here last year (so she's not yet fully converted to americanism). This is probably the 3rd time I see her outside of class: we went for a quick coffee the other day, and had fun trying out couches and having convo in a store some time before.

During the couch-trial outting, I pulled her closer to me a few times, and I could see she was into me, playing with her hair, looking deep into my eyes and all. I didn't kiss her though (dumbass move).

A few days later, we came out of class and I proposed we go take a coffee. I brought her to this really cool place, we had coffee and convo and all, then I showed her around, once again putting my arm around her waist and stuff. She didn't seem to mind. Again, deep eye-contact, laughter, she looked comfortable and into me.

Today, we went to a club together, danced for an hour, had a load of fun, talked and everything. I showed her this really cool spot where the view is really nice. Again, I held her by the waist, by the hand, deep eye contact ...

I think it's pretty obvious I'm interested in her, that even she sees it. She doesn't seem to mind me holding her or me touching her, she looks comfortable around me, took a picture of me, and of us together.

However, I think there's something missing here. I think my bodylanguage should be more than clear that I'm interested, yet I don't know if she gets my true intentions or not. Should I just talk to her about it, or what's the best course to take here?
I see her on a very regular basis, as we have a lot of classes together at the university ..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I agree.. I'm no expert but the whole "actions speak louder than words" phrase should come into play here.

She's stupid to not know your interested...she knows it. She also knows she's not going to make the first move. What do ya have to lose??

Good luck brother
 
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Vanilla said:
Why haven't you kissed her yet?
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cuz im a dumbass. lol

the couch-time place would've been the best but I think I was actually scared as we were in public (that plus she's muslim so I didn't know how she'd have reacted).

2nd time we left in a hurry

this time I was too gay to follow up. And now that I think back at it, I think I was waiting for her to do the move. grrrr I am my own worst enemy.

So how do I save this? You guys think I should try to see her tomorrow and fix it up?
 
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I dunno... I'll take shi* for this, but if she's interested, yeah go for it. Set up a date.. I mean sure you could "wait a few days" but if you guys are having fun, and thier is interest then yeah go for it.

Mix it up though... coffee just seems so formal, take her out and do something involving action, and fun. Get her to smile and laugh..and feel involved. Definately kiss her though man...she's waiting for it at this point.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Man the way you explained your dates with her it sounds to me like you if you were in a semi-private location you could've went for the kiss and commenced to removing her clothing..and the rest is history.
 
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