My nice guy side not again

[kevin18]

Hi,

I met a girl older than me (25) and sometimes she makes me mad and I don’t know what to do. First she often talks about her problems parents, friends,work..She told me one of her ex treated her like **** but she was 3 years with her ...wtf.When she does that I look away once I told her that I don’t give an f*ck about that and she was mad. Sometimes she wants me to massage her arm and if I don’t she does the baby ohhplease do it thing. The best part is that she stopped smoking when we met and now she started back..She always tell me you will be mad at me I bought another pack…I get really mad…Should I don’t give a f*ck or tell her if you don’t quite you will loose me. At least the good news is that I see her only 1 or 2 times a week like in the dj guide and she’s a hb 8. But the bad part is that I still feel like I am an nice guy even if I made big progress .

 

[psychgrad]

Dont do anything for her without her doing something for you.

Eg.you will massage her hand only if she gives you a kiss on your cheek or lips, whatever.

When she talks about stuff you dont care about; roll your eyes and pretend your bored or you can pretend your nodding off do this in joking way.

good luck

 

[smoke city]

kevin.
this here is pretty much to be expected of ANY girl you go out with. how long have you been dating? if it's for more than a couple of months, then you really SHOULD be listening to her and being understanding. Now the ex boyfriend probably affects her a lot, but he's not relevant anymore -- if you believe that, then you should SAY IT in a non-confrontational way. don't act like you don't care. that's lame and AFC.
believe it or not, when she gives you the "baby ooh please" ****, she ACTUALLY wants you to say NO. trust me. say no 9 times out of 10. i've had MANY girls tell me that when they whine like that at a guy and he gives in, they KNOW and WILL walk all over him. SAY NO.
man, don't get bent out of shape about it -- i used to. but as women get older, they only get BETTER at this stuff. i've grown to appreciate it--it's a very feminine quality. and once you know how to deal with it, you'll even find the whining cute and kinda sexy.

 

[kevin18]

ok

I am dating her for 2 months now. And what do you think about the smoking part?

 

[smoke city]

If it bothers you, you should say so. but you can't change her. and to leave a girl you really like because she smokes -- that's just stupid.
I know a guy who wanted his girl to quit smoking. So he STARTED smoking -- so they could quit together.

 

[kevin18]

Originally posted by smoke city
If it bothers you, you should say so. but you can't change her. and to leave a girl you really like because she smokes -- that's just stupid.
I know a guy who wanted his girl to quit smoking. So he STARTED smoking -- so they could quit together.

:crackup: lol no disrespect but this is the most dumb thing he could do... Me too I said I will start smoking too but it was only to see how she would react.

 

[smoke city]

lol no disrespect but this is the most dumb thing he could do... Me too I said I will start smoking too but it was only to see how she would react.

it wasn't all that dumb, since it actually WORKED. If you really like a woman, you make last-resort bold moves like this -- take it from me, they love it.
do you think women want a guy who is tough and will hang in for her, or one who can't be there for her because he's to worried about whether he's acting like a "nice guy" or "AFC"?

 

[Marlimus]

to leave a girl you really like because she smokes -- that's just stupid.

To leave a girl because she smokes is as good a reason as any, if you're health conscious. Studies show that secondhand smoke is just as likely to be cancer-causing as smoking yourself.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by Marlimus
To leave a girl because she smokes is as good a reason as any, if you're health conscious. Studies show that secondhand smoke is just as likely to be cancer-causing as smoking yourself.

I agree, f*ck if the girl is a f*cking chimney I'm not going to stick around for something that will more than likely not be a long-term relationship and risk my health for that sh*t. F*ck that bullsh*t, and, if you are dumb enough to throw your life away (health wise) for some girl thats right f*cked up.

*USE THAT THING IN YOUR HEAD CALLED A BRAIN*

 

[kevin18]

Originally posted by white cloud 8
I agree, f*ck if the girl is a f*cking chimney I'm not going to stick around for something that will more than likely not be a long-term relationship and risk my health for that sh*t. F*ck that bullsh*t, and, if you are dumb enough to throw your life away (health wise) for some girl thats right f*cked up.

*USE THAT THING IN YOUR HEAD CALLED A BRAIN*

That's right, I totally agreed with you. I made it clear never smoke in front of me or in my car or I will kick your sexy ass.