"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

My neck hurts

Bible_Belt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
17,578
Reaction score
6,360
Age
50
Location
midwestern cow field 40
Last night was 'rear naked choke hold night' at MMA class, and now my neck hurts. From what I remember, I think I'm supposed to avoid heat for at least three days, and use just ice. What is the best icing routine? Is it 20 minutes on/off as much as possible? Is a sore neck a pain that can be ignored, or do I wait for it to stop hurting so I don't hurt it worse?

If anyone has any other sore neck advice, it would be appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

EFFORT

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 17, 2003
Messages
2,115
Reaction score
45
Location
USA
Bible_Belt said:
Last night was 'rear naked choke hold night' at MMA class, and now my neck hurts. From what I remember, I think I'm supposed to avoid heat for at least three days, and use just ice. What is the best icing routine? Is it 20 minutes on/off as much as possible? Is a sore neck a pain that can be ignored, or do I wait for it to stop hurting so I don't hurt it worse?

If anyone has any other sore neck advice, it would be appreciated.

i would ice it 3 times a day for 20mins each, massage it 3 times a day or get a chick to, and stretch it out 3 times a day do this for 3 days then start adding heat after that
 

KarmaSutra

Banned
Joined
Oct 13, 2005
Messages
4,818
Reaction score
142
Age
53
Location
Padron Reserve maduro in hand while finishing my b
It's aesthetically therapeutic to bite the pillow to throw your neck back into whack.

If that doesn't work I suggest a Chiropractor for the neck and a Proctologist for that sore ass.

Had to fvck with you a little bit Bible Humper!

:cheer:
 

lookyoung

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2006
Messages
1,303
Reaction score
36
Location
Chicago
I have a disc herniation of C6-C7. Yet I still lift heavy and also do brazilian jiu-jitsu. I have alot of knowledge when it comes to neck injuries. If I were you I would give it some time before I go to the DR unless the pain is intolerable.

Even if you did hurt your neck bad( Disc herniation) These are your 4 options.

1. Pain medicine.
2. Physical therapy.
3. Cervical injection.
4. Surgery.

I found what helped me most with injuries is positive thinking. Read books by John sarno. Its about mindbody disorders and its very interesting.

What helped my neck the most was lying in a heating pad every night before bed. My pain was chronic. In your case you would want to ice it and spend some time in a steam room or better yet a jacuzzi.
 

Bible_Belt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
17,578
Reaction score
6,360
Age
50
Location
midwestern cow field 40
Thanks for the replies, even you, karma, learning to fight as an art is taking the fight out of me in day-to-day living.

I think it is just a muscle strain, nothing to do with vertebrae thankfully. When it gets right again, I am going to start doing neck bridges and whatever I can to get a stronger neck. Being tall gives an advantage in leverage when grappling, but the downside in bjj is that us taller guys tend to have a nice long neck for choking. Mine is going to be my weak point unless I work on it.
 
Last edited:

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Top