That_Guy49
Don Juan
Ill be in a social scenario and people are talking and I just can't open my mouth and say anything and after a while ppl themselves call me on it and wonder why I'm so quiet..I hate it, how do I help deal with it?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
my mouth won't open sometimes
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I can remember being in 7th grade, and having the same exact problem. Don't sweat it bro, it'll wear off. You think that that mysterious strong silent type will attract chicks, but in reality, it has almost no effect on anyone. It just makes you look really strange.
And I know you probably can't help it and aren't much of a social person at heart, but you have to dig deep within and find that person that's outgoing. From being at the bottom of the totem pole as a 7th grader in junior high to being a senior in high school, I've changed tremendously as a person. Physically and mentally.
Take it from me, next time you're in the middle of that group of kids, YOU be the one that starts the convo. After you start improving your social skills, it does get a lot easier, and that's where your confidence builds up. Not only will this help your success with women, but you can also count on it to help you with your career.
Imagine going to a job interview. You walk in and shake the man's hand..only, you look down almost the whole time while he asks you questions you respond with a simple, "Yes, umm that's right." Who's going to get the job? It'll be the guy that walks in right after you, grips and shakes the man's hand firmly with that confident glare in his eyes, and speaks with a tone any man could admire.
I know it can be hard at first, but you have to break that barrier. And believe me, it's definitely worth it.
And I know you probably can't help it and aren't much of a social person at heart, but you have to dig deep within and find that person that's outgoing. From being at the bottom of the totem pole as a 7th grader in junior high to being a senior in high school, I've changed tremendously as a person. Physically and mentally.
Take it from me, next time you're in the middle of that group of kids, YOU be the one that starts the convo. After you start improving your social skills, it does get a lot easier, and that's where your confidence builds up. Not only will this help your success with women, but you can also count on it to help you with your career.
Imagine going to a job interview. You walk in and shake the man's hand..only, you look down almost the whole time while he asks you questions you respond with a simple, "Yes, umm that's right." Who's going to get the job? It'll be the guy that walks in right after you, grips and shakes the man's hand firmly with that confident glare in his eyes, and speaks with a tone any man could admire.
I know it can be hard at first, but you have to break that barrier. And believe me, it's definitely worth it.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Do the bootcamp, seriously, all those times you wanna speak your brain won't even think about it, it will be concerned with filling your quota of Hi's and the 3s rule will be in full effect.
I've been dissed when i entered convo and it is nothing. You just feel awkward and then when you leave the group youy smile to yourself and think "what a funny thing I'm going to tell my friends"
I've been dissed when i entered convo and it is nothing. You just feel awkward and then when you leave the group youy smile to yourself and think "what a funny thing I'm going to tell my friends"
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i don't know how much help you need with this, but i'll advise you while thinking about one of my mates who is the shyest person on the planet.
you have to learn to express your opinions/ideas.
this happens in two steps
1. having an opinion/idea/thought
2. expressing it
so the next time you're in a group and can't speak, listen to what people are saying, come up with a thought related to what they've been saying, and say it - while not expecting anything in return. it's your right to have that thought/opinion and your right to express it, no, your duty to.
- in social situations, it's always better to give positive views about things eg "cmon, everyone loves cheese"
i used to be like what you've just described SO fvcking badly. then everything changed. I found this site and i found my role models. my cousin, a very very opinionated, social and independent person (although not the brightest) told me one day out of the blue "say whatever you want and don't give a fvck what anyone thinks". I don't think i'll ever forget that piece of advice.
anyways man, at the end of the day this stuff doesn't matter that much. men were not made for talking, they were made for acting and doing things.
you have to learn to express your opinions/ideas.
this happens in two steps
1. having an opinion/idea/thought
2. expressing it
so the next time you're in a group and can't speak, listen to what people are saying, come up with a thought related to what they've been saying, and say it - while not expecting anything in return. it's your right to have that thought/opinion and your right to express it, no, your duty to.
- in social situations, it's always better to give positive views about things eg "cmon, everyone loves cheese"
i used to be like what you've just described SO fvcking badly. then everything changed. I found this site and i found my role models. my cousin, a very very opinionated, social and independent person (although not the brightest) told me one day out of the blue "say whatever you want and don't give a fvck what anyone thinks". I don't think i'll ever forget that piece of advice.
anyways man, at the end of the day this stuff doesn't matter that much. men were not made for talking, they were made for acting and doing things.