"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My mind is only comfortable mainly approaching black women.

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I've pretty much only been with black women, but how do I fix this? I want to approach any kind of woman I see and not just see black women. How can I open my mind up to all kinds of women and feel comfortable?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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There's only the one way to fix this, which the same way you deal with approach anxiety, you approach women of other races that you find attractive.
 

El Payaso

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Lol. What is it about white or asian or hispanic or whatever women that scares you?
 

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All of those mental barriers in your head are socially conditioned. I'm not trying to discount the extent of that social conditioning, just the validity of it in 2015. Your thoughts shouldn't be 'I'm black. She's white. I need to accommodate my approach to acknowledge those differences.' People are people. Women are women. Some girls won't be down. So what? I'm not going to lie and pretend that every white girl's gonna be receptive; that's just not reality.

But even in the deep south most of my black friends have pulled snow bunnies at some point--and not just overweight hoodrat white chicks; I'm talking preppy upper middle class daddy's little girls.
 

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I've pretty much only been with black women, but how do I fix this? I want to approach any kind of woman I see and not just see black women. How can I open my mind up to all kinds of women and feel comfortable?
Just do it.
All of those mental barriers in your head are socially conditioned. I'm not trying to discount the extent of that social conditioning, just the validity of it in 2015. Your thoughts shouldn't be 'I'm black. She's white. I need to accommodate my approach to acknowledge those differences.' People are people. Women are women. Some girls won't be down. So what? I'm not going to lie and pretend that every white girl's gonna be receptive; that's just not reality.

But even in the deep south most of my black friends have pulled snow bunnies at some point--and not just overweight hoodrat white chicks; I'm talking preppy upper middle class daddy's little girls.
He is a white guy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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