"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My mind is only comfortable mainly approaching black women.

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I've pretty much only been with black women, but how do I fix this? I want to approach any kind of woman I see and not just see black women. How can I open my mind up to all kinds of women and feel comfortable?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There's only the one way to fix this, which the same way you deal with approach anxiety, you approach women of other races that you find attractive.
 

El Payaso

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Lol. What is it about white or asian or hispanic or whatever women that scares you?
 

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All of those mental barriers in your head are socially conditioned. I'm not trying to discount the extent of that social conditioning, just the validity of it in 2015. Your thoughts shouldn't be 'I'm black. She's white. I need to accommodate my approach to acknowledge those differences.' People are people. Women are women. Some girls won't be down. So what? I'm not going to lie and pretend that every white girl's gonna be receptive; that's just not reality.

But even in the deep south most of my black friends have pulled snow bunnies at some point--and not just overweight hoodrat white chicks; I'm talking preppy upper middle class daddy's little girls.
 

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I've pretty much only been with black women, but how do I fix this? I want to approach any kind of woman I see and not just see black women. How can I open my mind up to all kinds of women and feel comfortable?
Just do it.
All of those mental barriers in your head are socially conditioned. I'm not trying to discount the extent of that social conditioning, just the validity of it in 2015. Your thoughts shouldn't be 'I'm black. She's white. I need to accommodate my approach to acknowledge those differences.' People are people. Women are women. Some girls won't be down. So what? I'm not going to lie and pretend that every white girl's gonna be receptive; that's just not reality.

But even in the deep south most of my black friends have pulled snow bunnies at some point--and not just overweight hoodrat white chicks; I'm talking preppy upper middle class daddy's little girls.
He is a white guy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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