"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MY LTR wants more love from me

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She says that Im her life AND I know it, that she puts me in front of everything and I don’t do the same that I don’t love her the same way.
I love her but IN my way that’s what i told her, also I said to her well maybe you need someone that could express his feelings better with you I cant do nothing else that’s the way I am she told me no I want you But all I want is a little more from you.

I hate this **** anybody been there...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What kind of question is this????

Go write a letter to Ann Landers, she deals with relationships. This is dating and seduction. Close this topic, no one else reply!
 

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You are only 22... "I am who i am. Take it or leave it."

She is essentially telling you that her life revolves around you. She is an AFC female. She should be happy with or without you. Bottomline is that its her problem not your problem.
 

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If she wants more loving take out your wang and do something about it.
 

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Bussey said:
What kind of question is this????

Go write a letter to Ann Landers, she deals with relationships. This is dating and seduction. Close this topic, no one else reply!

STFU I been here longer than you so STFU and **** your self
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bussey said:
What kind of question is this????

Go write a letter to Ann Landers, she deals with relationships. This is dating and seduction. Close this topic, no one else reply!
This entire website is concerned with relationship development.

If you have nothing constructive to contribute to the discussion, don't contribute at all.
 

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LOL, hahaha, you're all too funny. Seriously though, long term relationships have no place here. :yes: :rock:
 

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Dayr0n said:
She says that Im her life AND I know it, that she puts me in front of everything and I don’t do the same that I don’t love her the same way.
I love her but IN my way that’s what i told her, also I said to her well maybe you need someone that could express his feelings better with you I cant do nothing else that’s the way I am she told me no I want you But all I want is a little more from you.

I hate this **** anybody been there...
Hate to tell you this but they key to keeping a relationship long term is a willingness to come to an compromise about loving one another how the other person wants to be loved. You've gotta ask yourself how much you're willing to put into the compromise.
 

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All is back to normal. She said to me "Dayr0n all I want from you is that you show me a little bit more love" I told her I try my best but you know if your not happy with the way I am you know what to do.

I love her but I don’t like showing my feelings too much just the right amount.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dayr0n said:
I love her but I don’t like showing my feelings too much just the right amount.
If you haven't read my article, see the tip in my signature. Love isn't about wordy expressions. Love is all about passion. You demonstrate passion through your actions, your behavior, and more importantly, your approach toward your life. If you are passionate in your approach, you need not worry about the measure of your emotions.
 

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She should be happy with or without you. Bottomline is that its her problem not your problem.
NAILED for truth.

And she is happy or she'd be getting railed by someone else, you wouldnt be here thinking you have TIME to "improve" on things if this really was a problem to her, it doesnt work like that, chicks dont think and say "well if he doesnt show me he (insert problem) me then I'm gone".

Thats just not how it works.

Your gone when and if you become socially lacking and or boring compared to her next suitor.

Also and this may blow your mind, chicks dont next guys for reasons of "lack of love".

She's simply (and probably inadvertently but who cares really) trying to tip your scale of power.
 

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Your gone when and if you become socially lacking and or boring compared to her next suitor.
I agree with this part.

Also and this may blow your mind, chicks dont next guys for reasons of "lack of love".
But I disagree with this. Girls who aren't getting the attention they crave from their boyfriends are easier to pull than single girls. Just give them the attention they're lacking and they're yours.

However, too much attention and they're gone. You need to mix it up a little and be unpredictable with it.
 

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Bussey said:
Seriously though, long term relationships have no place here.
Would you mind posting a list of your rules so that we can all know what we can and cannot discuss on SoSuave?

:crackup:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dayr0n said:
She says that Im her life AND I know it, that she puts me in front of everything and I don’t do the same that I don’t love her the same way.
I love her but IN my way that’s what i told her, also I said to her well maybe you need someone that could express his feelings better with you I cant do nothing else that’s the way I am she told me no I want you But all I want is a little more from you.

I hate this **** anybody been there...

"i yam what i yam" - popeye
 

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She never mention that we were going to brake up ohhh if she says that I dump her ass so ****ing bad.

She told me yesterday that we should do something really romantic for our anniversary. I think she needs more romance from me like every now and then show her some appreciation and love.
 

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Jariel said:
I agree with this part.

But I disagree with this. Girls who aren't getting the attention they crave from their boyfriends are easier to pull than single girls. Just give them the attention they're lacking and they're yours.

However, too much attention and they're gone. You need to mix it up a little and be unpredictable with it.
Love and attention have nothing to do with each other, dont be a fvckwit and try to twist my sh!t just cause I'm awesome jariella, you after some attention or what? thats weak even for you.

Btw what happened to that heart felt goodbye speech you made chump?
 

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Love and attention have nothing to do with each other, dont be a fvckwit and try to twist my sh!t just cause I'm awesome jariella, you after some attention or what? thats weak even for you.
Hmm, that made little sense. I always knew you had social problems, but now you're typing like a retarded 7 year old. Have you had any head injuries recently? Get yourself checked out dude!

Btw what happened to that heart felt goodbye speech you made chump?
In short, I got complacent and returned mainly for the motivation and advice of the H&F forum.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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