"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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my LTR is convinced that I cheated TWICE,but...

Ridingthelightning

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I've always found that the person who is accusing someone of cheating is the person that is doing the cheating. I wouldn't be surprised if your lady friend is actually cheating on you, or thinking about it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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L B

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A relationship needs to be stable for it to progress. If you think she's crazy now, wait until you marry her and start a family. Welcome to your future hell.

Two years together makes this a very serious LTR. I would not waste my time with a hot and cold, night and day girl. The drain on my life would be too much. I suggest you talk to her about what is really going on, she will probably ramble on about something blah, blah, blah avoiding the real truth. At this stage, it is usually too late. Time to move on.
 

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Rescue Mission said:
bump

I'd like to see the original poster stand up to my comments like a man.
Must be fun to pretend you're a tough guy, sitting at home alone behind a computer screen ;)
 

iqqi

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I am pretty sure that the original poster DID indeed cheat, and this is a thread that he made, and then "accidentally" left the screen up for his girlfriend to find. Slick? I say, no.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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drak_ool

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iqqi said:
I am pretty sure that the original poster DID indeed cheat, and this is a thread that he made, and then "accidentally" left the screen up for his girlfriend to find. Slick? I say, no.

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haha someone here is even more paranoid than me! I think you do have a point, but then again I m a big believer in conspiracy theories...
 

RMM

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drak_ool said:
haha someone here is even more paranoid than me! I think you do have a point, but then again I m a big believer in conspiracy theories...
It's actually a lot simpler. He posted from a friend's work computer, to give a pretense of being impossible to trace, whereas the plan was for him to be called on inappropriate use of company resources. That way, the friend would get pissed, go through the browsing history, find the thread, read what was posted, and complain to his mother (because if he's pissed he wouldn't want to talk to him directly).

His mother would get worried about how the relationship of those two was going, somewhat inquire, and filter out that he was worried about the girlfriend thinking he cheated, but without directly confronting her. this has the added benefit of coming from an authoritative source (the mother of the friend), while not making him admit or deny everything, thus keeping the upper hand in the relationship.

Quite clever, really. And he would have gotten away with it if it wasn't for those meddling forumgoers!
 

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I don't have a problem with Resuce Mission style.

I was in a relationship with a chick for 18 months a couple years back. One day UP next day DOWN.

It was rubbish.

Well, I didn't learn to well, because my next relationship was shorter and like UP one minute DOWN the next, and turned me into a total AFC for a while.

I'm still in recovery mode and back in bootcamp - even if I am past 40.

So - some harsh reality never hurt anyone as long as the comments to go with it are articulate and well put.
 
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