"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My Lower Back Hurt

Abnigh9

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Yeah topic, my lower back hurt for some reason... why?

I haven't exercised or done any hard exercise for 6 weeks so can anyone explain?

It just come to me once in a while and it's getting rather annoying.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You may have pulled it without realizing it. If it's still a problem in a week go to your physician.
 

Abnigh9

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Hm.. is there anything I can do for now? Like some stretch or something?

Aw :( I fear I'm getting old.. I wish I had all this money and possession when I was a little kid. Only then...
 

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I haven't tried them, but I'd think that those large Icy-Hot back patches they've been advertising would do the trick for a short-term fix.
 
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Originally posted by Abnigh9
Yeah topic, my lower back hurt for some reason... why?

I haven't exercised or done any hard exercise for 6 weeks so can anyone explain?

It just come to me once in a while and it's getting rather annoying.
get your back checked out and then begin doing specific workouts for your spinal erectors and lower back muscles..

lots of lighter-weight deadlifting (6-8 reps) and reverse hyperextensions. squatting and barbell rows also work wonders on your back.

your back pain is probably due to the weakening of the muscles supporting the spinal column.. those tend to deteriorate with age. "exercising" doesn't remedy that. You have to specifically target them with the exercises I just mentioned.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I've had back pain here and there all my life. Typically when I just twist the wrong way.

Last time I went running, my back killed me for 4 days after. I knew I over did it.

What happens is you strain an unused muscle. It swells slightly and presses on a nerve causing the pain. At least that's what a Chiro told me...
 

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stretch your hamstrings and then lay on your back and pull your knee to your chest that should help
 

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I get a lower back pain after running, something to do with the shocks up the heal and connecting with the lower back or something.
Personally, if I wee you I would stretch it would.
Basically I'm suggesting you find a wall and lean backwards so that your fingers are pointing to the floor, palms touching the wall. Get used to the feeling and try and basically try and touch the floor with your hands (walking down the wall with your hands), you will have the shape of a arch.
I started doing it after I begin heavy squatting (its bad when you start out on the lower back....couldn't bend down to touch my knees for the first month or 2 after a session), and it seems to work for me.
Suggest you start slowly though, depending if your lower backs stiff or if there is a sharp pain.
 
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