"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My Low Point

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Alright guys...I need somebody to help me on this one.

I met this girl about a month ago, and once I broke up with my previous girlfriend we got together. A few weeks in, she starts acting cold and distant, then tells me she "wants to get to know me better" so we stop dating. I think, well ****, loss of attraction...So I go about things normally. We spend the next week as "just friends" and we talk a lot, see each other as part of a group of our friends, and just have a total blast. We flirt a hell of a lot and everything starts to get confusing...

A little while later, her best friend informs me that she's starting to "fall for me" again, so I'm like, "What the hell?" and take her out to a movie just me and her, where we proceed to have a make-out session in the back row.

Now, after this I'm feeling really good about things, but as always the universe it out to **** with me. I get an IM as soon as I'm home that says she made a mistake and shouldn't have let me kiss her. I tell her that she was doing as much kissing as I was and pretty much ask her what the hell her problem is. She says she got "caught up in the moment". (Bull****) Her best friend is online at the same time, and tells me that she's telling her she really likes me but is afraid of getting hurt. When I bring it up, she says that's part of the reason, but she doesn't even know so she can't tell me the rest of it.

Okay, this girl is...I can't understand anything she says or does. I feel like **** because I know she's interested in me but there's something holding her back, something she's afraid of that keeps her from pursuing it. As a bit of history, she's kind of shy around people she doesn't know and she's never had a real boyfriend before. Can anyone shed some light on this for me? :confused: :(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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theres lots of possible reasons, i dont tihnk its because shes shy but mostly somthing to do with what your freind told you aobut that she is afriad of getting hurt, i think its probably moving to fast for her, she said shes falling for you, welli t seems liek she likes you but things are moving to fast for her, try slowing it down possibly, and get to know here better and do not try and make any moves on her.

hope iv been a help
 
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Tell her when she's made up her mind, to give you a call. Until then, cya! Don't sweat one girl bro, get out there and 'shop around'. Hell, if anything, show her that your not waiting around for her to make a move. Right now she's holding all the cards and you're just playing along. Take control of the situation.

There are women out there that love drama, or enjoy toying with emotions of wuss bags that don't know any better.
 
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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
Tell her when she's made up her mind, to give you a call. Until then, cya! Don't sweat one girl bro, get out there and 'shop around'. Hell, if anything, show her that your not waiting around for her to make a move. Right now she's holding all the cards and you're just playing along. Take control of the situation.

There are women out there that love drama, or enjoy toying with emotions of wuss bags that don't know any better.
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This muthafukka right here is on point!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Bunk 040
This muthafukka right here is on point!
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Thanks bro...I try to be. :D
 
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Originally posted by Interpol
This isn't worth your time.
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AMEN!

Put it on the backburner and see how it goes. Either she'll come back to you, or she wont. Either way, it always works out for the best in the long run :)
 
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