"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My long thread about finding my sticking points and finally becoming successful...

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I know that I have all the tools necessary to be successful at attracting and ****ing women.

I am now on a mission to identify and eliminate all the obstacles (both external and internal) that are coming in my way.

I expect this to be a long post, and I don't want to keep creating new thread after thread so I will just keep adding to this one.

As I see it now, this is what is in my way...

1. I am not confident enough. I am not UNCONFIDENT... but I am also not supremely unshakably confident. Also, I think I rely on the perceptions of others for my confidence rather than having it come from within.

2. I don't make enough money. I make $87,000/year. That's pretty good... but I need to be making like $300,000/year or more. I really need to be in the top 1% of income in order to maximize my value. I'm smart... so why not capitalize on it.

3. I haven't gone out in nearly a month. Honestly, I don't think I've showered in a week, and I'm wearing the same clothes and boxers that I've been wearing for the past 4 days, during which time, I've probably jerked off about 50 times. Lol. This is a quick fix. Just take a shower, put on clean clothes and leave the house, especially to high-end places.

4. I'm not sexually aggressive enough. I was born shy and am still shy. But a lot of it is just not knowing what to say. No matter how much money I make or how much I've gone through... it won't matter if I don't create a powerful presence.

That being said... I've been awake for about 16 hours now... so I will probably be sleeping as opposed to going out tonight.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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In my opinion "sticking points" are actually excuses to keep me comfortable and average. I choose to use them to re-inforce doubt over certainty; conformity over uniqueness.

"Sticking points" are the antithesis of confidence.
Well whatever you want to call it.
 

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I am now on a mission to identify and eliminate all the obstacles (both external and internal) that are coming in my way.
This is a good start

1. I am not confident enough. I am not UNCONFIDENT... but I am also not supremely unshakably confident. Also, I think I rely on the perceptions of others for my confidence rather than having it come from within.
I started to not care on the perceptions of others of me when I used my previous fvck ups as my strength rather than my weakness. I experienced hell on earth and I survived. That was something to be proud of.

Read these:
  1. My two cents on confidence
  2. Tip #2: Confidence

4. I'm not sexually aggressive enough.
You must accept your own sexuality and women's. We're all sexual creatures.

Read this: THE TEN COMMANDMENTS

I was born shy and am still shy.
I was like that. In fact, I was the shiest man I ever met. Then I realized that I needed to change that whatever it takes.

Read this: For all the SHY guys out there...

But a lot of it is just not knowing what to say. No matter how much money I make or how much I've gone through...
Read "Step 7: Conversation" from DJ Bible and don't forget to develop curiosity towards others. You can't be interesting if you're not interested in others.

it won't matter if I don't create a powerful presence.
Read The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene to learn how to be powerful.
 
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