my life is ****

[Agressor]

i havnt been out to a party or invited anywhere on fri or sat nights with my mates since new years party so im home alone waiting for someone to ring me if i try to ring them they have plans that dont include me

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

sigh.....

Instead of waiting home for someone to give you a ring why don't you go outside, maybe you can meet some women. Go look for action, don't wait for it to come to you.

 

[Agressor]

where can i go to look for action?

 

[Donald Kaufman]

It depends somewhat on your age and where you live but chances are somewhere near where you are someone else is also bored and looking for something to do. Go there.

 

[Agressor]

but i dont know where

 

[Caldus]

Do you go to college? Where are you? Surely there's something going on around your area. Sometimes there will be nights where there won't be much going on for you but that's OK just chill and have fun with the friends you do have. You don't have to go to parties in order to have fun. And the action will never come to you. You must search for it.

 

[Agressor]

but half my friends are at parties or clubing and the other half are boring and dont want to do anything

 

[Donald Kaufman]

but half my friends are at parties or clubing and the other half are boring and dont want to do anything

If that is true you might need some new friends. Figure out what you might like trying and do that. If you really like clubbing go on a night your friends are less likely to go and go alone. Try other clubs.

You don't neccessarily need to give up your current friends but it definitely sounds like you need some new ones.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

I'm sort of in the same situation as you, except to a much, much, much larger extent. People say "just go out and meet new people", but easier said than done to jump-start a non-existent social life.

 

[car501]

Your posting doesn't show where you live, but, check out your local newspaper. Look in the entertainment, 'Weekend' or 'Living' sections.If you have a local radio station that plays 'Top 40' type music they are always plugging whats going on at local clubs, at least here in NY they do. Go to a club, pub, or dance club by yourself. If you go and look around you'll see other guy's there by themselves. Sure it's nice to go with someone, but if you wait, you'll spend a lot of time at home doing nothing. Times a wastin' ! Go out, by yourself if you have to. Good luck....

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by Agressor
where can i go to look for action?

Originally posted by Agressor
but half my friends are at parties or clubing ...

Looks like you answered your own question to me.

 

[DJHoolahoop]

Yeah man, I'm in a similar situation myself. I phone 10 friends and they're all doing something different with somebody else but me.

So what do I do? I'm training to be a DJ (not just a don juan too) so at times where there's nothing to do, I spin records. Pressuming you don't DJ, then tehre are other things.

- Try learning to dance, so you can go to the club and have a good time. Girls also like guys who dance.

- Try finding a hobby to have fun with on those days where you're bored and by yourself.

- Go to the movies by yourself.

- Play pool by yourself

- Go Bowling by yourself

- Go Clubbing by yourself

- If your city sponsors club parties, then try and go to them. The music, IMO, is a LOT better than what they normally play in bars and it's usually around 5 bux to get in. If you need tips on finding them, try and find music shops or record shops because usually the store clerk should know where you can find out where these sponsored parties are.

Some of these things might seem lame and loserish, but you shouldn't even care about what others think. And what's more loserish and lame? Going out and having a good time by yourself? Or sitting at home whacking off to internet porn saying you wish you had a life?

Trust me, if it's anything like where I had problems. Chances are you don't want to do those thigns alone, but trust me if you have nothing else to do they're great. Remember, who gives a **** about what other people think. Do it because YOU enjoy it, not by how it makes you look in others eyes.

PeACe

 

[stevey_2000]

this is a piss take, surely!!

 

[david90]

Originally posted by DJHoolahoop
Yeah man, I'm in a similar situation myself. I phone 10 friends and they're all doing something different with somebody else but me.

So what do I do? I'm training to be a DJ (not just a don juan too) so at times where there's nothing to do, I spin records. Pressuming you don't DJ, then tehre are other things.

- Try learning to dance, so you can go to the club and have a good time. Girls also like guys who dance.

- Try finding a hobby to have fun with on those days where you're bored and by yourself.

- Go to the movies by yourself.

- Play pool by yourself

- Go Bowling by yourself

- Go Clubbing by yourself

- If your city sponsors club parties, then try and go to them. The music, IMO, is a LOT better than what they normally play in bars and it's usually around 5 bux to get in. If you need tips on finding them, try and find music shops or record shops because usually the store clerk should know where you can find out where these sponsored parties are.

Some of these things might seem lame and loserish, but you shouldn't even care about what others think. And what's more loserish and lame? Going out and having a good time by yourself? Or sitting at home whacking off to internet porn saying you wish you had a life?

Trust me, if it's anything like where I had problems. Chances are you don't want to do those thigns alone, but trust me if you have nothing else to do they're great. Remember, who gives a **** about what other people think. Do it because YOU enjoy it, not by how it makes you look in others eyes.

PeACe

I feel like a loser going out by myself. what girl would want to talk to me?

 

[Skweints]

Social status is a *****... I'm sorry. Do any of your friends have girlfriends? Do they have any friends who are good looking? probably. Hey, it's alright to talk her and say "Hey, introduce me to some of your friends sometime!" Just be sure you know how to show your friend's girlfriend a good time. If she likes you, chances are, she'll get her friends to like you.

That's probably the easiest way to get into the door. Chances are, though, if your friends don't ever invite you to go out with them, you're probably a bum, and wouldn't make them have any better of a time. This is going to have to be corrected first if you want any chance using the method above.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What the fvck is this? The Arcane Ramblings of the Bla-Bla Brotherhood? Do you guys serve drinks at the pity party?

 

[Wiesman44]

Please don't take offense to this......but a lot of you guys who are looking for pity are complete losers with minimal social status. your friends don't invite you anywhere b/c

1) You're no fun
2) You're not funny
and/or 3) You're an embarassment to be with

If they really were your friends, and u didnt have 1,2, or 3 listed above against u, they would call you up.

That means you are looking for some special miracle to help you break out of the above listed no no's. You're self-esteem has been shattered b/c of these people and u have little confidence.

So u want a miracle. Sorry bro. We don't hand those out at this forum. We can only guide you in the right path. Having the same traits and characteristics for your entire life, well, they're hard to break.

Listen to Djhookalot. He told u some great things to do.

You say you'll seem like a loser by doing those things ? Well look at u now bro. You have friends that don't want to hang out with you and you have no social life. The only place to go is UP now.

Grab your balls, go out, and have fun by yourself. Meet some new people. Anything. Just break your current routine.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I have the opposite problemeople don't leave me alone.

That happened to me in my first semester though.

You should try hanging out with people just doing bullsh!t and running errands during the day as opposed to going out on the club circuit.

For some people painting the town red is reserved only for there "real" freinds and people they are comfartable with.

Imagine trynna game women alongside a group of guys you barley know.You'll just be the fifth wheel.

Do small **** together to break the ice and then people will invite you into there real social circle.

 

[BLUEox117]

Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
I'm sort of in the same situation as you, except to a much, much, much larger extent. People say "just go out and meet new people", but easier said than done to jump-start a non-existent social life.

thats cause you are scared to jsut go out clubbing on your own.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Doing **** by yourself is for crazy old people.

I don't even run errands by myself anymore..that's how people go crazy.

If your own freinds are ignoring you then yes you obviously have some issues.

But if you mean you trying to do things with new people then do what i said above.