You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ok am seriously pissed off, am 23 years old and never really had a girlfriend, sure i had dates here and there but nothing worth mentioning. The past few years i have done alot to improve myself with new clothes, new haircut etc but am still not really goin forward. Am still confuse if its my look or my personality but it is SOMETHING that turn girls off, i act C&F but it still dont make the girl paties wet. My pic is below, let me know if there is something i can do to improve look wise. Thanks.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by thebsharp Ok am seriously pissed off, am 23 years old and never really had a girlfriend, sure i had dates here and there but nothing worth mentioning. The past few years i have done alot to improve myself with new clothes, new haircut etc but am still not really goin forward. Am still confuse if its my look or my personality but it is SOMETHING that turn girls off, i act C&F but it still dont make the girl paties wet. My pic is below, let me know if there is something i can do to improve look wise. Thanks.
Most guys would kill to look as good as you (ok that sounds gay but you are an above average looking guy and I dont have a prob saying that to help boost your self esteem!)
Well, maybe he's going for the brooding James Dean look. IMO, he's doing it right if that's the vibe he's going for. A lot of chicks like the mysterious brooding look, as long as a man is still friendly/outgoing enough once he is in a position to socialize.
Anyway, I like that look very much bsharp. Great jacket, good casual look. But I would throw in a pair of black dress shoes in, dress boots if you are confident enough to pull that off.
sheep in wolfs clothing.... there's a big difference in looking like a DJ and actually being one...
look i dont think it's the look man... but more or less how your mind is working... i guess what im saying is now it's time to exercise the mind about the DJ material... ok but then reading is one thing than actually practicing what they ask of you!
it's like driving a car. you can read about it all you want, (better yet it's like drifting) but unless you get into the hot seat, you're not a driver. So unless you read the material and apply it, you'll be in the same position as you are right now.... but yeah time to get some confidence dude! and dont worry everyone's f*cked up somehow in their past.... why else would a site like this exist? Here to help !
Originally posted by Scrumtulescence That really hit home with me. And having just turned 23, that made me feel a bit better about my situation. Thanks
Life is full of surprises, just maintain
your composure and be strong. A
girl needs that in a guy. Gives 'em
that security they seem to crave for.
(well, at least, those that I know.
There are always exceptions... )
Btw, Belated Happy Birthday!
ExZen
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
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