"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My life is getting pathetic!

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Ok am seriously pissed off, am 23 years old and never really had a girlfriend, sure i had dates here and there but nothing worth mentioning. The past few years i have done alot to improve myself with new clothes, new haircut etc but am still not really goin forward. Am still confuse if its my look or my personality but it is SOMETHING that turn girls off, i act C&F but it still dont make the girl paties wet. My pic is below, let me know if there is something i can do to improve look wise. Thanks.


http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OESQAER&key=VFV
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TyTe`EyEs

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You look decent enough. I would suggest that you read the DJ Bible.
 

Ice Cold

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Fukk man. If I saw you on the street, I'd think you're pimping the girls left to right.

Serious!



Just straighten yourself, say hi, take them for a walk and touch their boobies.
 

ExZen

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Dude.

You do not have an external issue here.
You are clearly a decent dresser and
smart and would have girls queuing up.

I believe your problem is within and
TyTE' Eyes is right. Read the DJ Bible.
It will definitely help you.

And at 23, the world is your oyster.

ExZen

pS: At least you said that your
"life is getting pathetic". That means
it hasn't gotten to that stage and
is easily rectifiable.
 

Fatality

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Originally posted by thebsharp
Ok am seriously pissed off, am 23 years old and never really had a girlfriend, sure i had dates here and there but nothing worth mentioning. The past few years i have done alot to improve myself with new clothes, new haircut etc but am still not really goin forward. Am still confuse if its my look or my personality but it is SOMETHING that turn girls off, i act C&F but it still dont make the girl paties wet. My pic is below, let me know if there is something i can do to improve look wise. Thanks.


http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OESQAER&key=VFV
Why do you have your head down and hands in your pockets? Makes you look very insecure.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Drex

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Originally posted by ExZen
Dude.

You do not have an external issue here.
You are clearly a decent dresser and
smart and would have girls queuing up.

I believe your problem is within and
TyTE' Eyes is right. Read the DJ Bible.
It will definitely help you.

And at 23, the world is your oyster.

ExZen

pS: At least you said that your
"life is getting pathetic". That means
it hasn't gotten to that stage and
is easily rectifiable.
What he said.

Most guys would kill to look as good as you (ok that sounds gay but you are an above average looking guy and I dont have a prob saying that to help boost your self esteem!)
 

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Re: Re: My life is getting pathetic!

Originally posted by Fatality
Why do you have your head down and hands in your pockets? Makes you look very insecure.

Well, maybe he's going for the brooding James Dean look. IMO, he's doing it right if that's the vibe he's going for. A lot of chicks like the mysterious brooding look, as long as a man is still friendly/outgoing enough once he is in a position to socialize.


Anyway, I like that look very much bsharp. Great jacket, good casual look. But I would throw in a pair of black dress shoes in, dress boots if you are confident enough to pull that off.
 

Scrumtulescence

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Originally posted by ExZen
Dude.

You do not have an external issue here.
You are clearly a decent dresser and
smart and would have girls queuing up.

I believe your problem is within and
TyTE' Eyes is right. Read the DJ Bible.
It will definitely help you.

And at 23, the world is your oyster.

ExZen

pS: At least you said that your
"life is getting pathetic". That means
it hasn't gotten to that stage and
is easily rectifiable.
That really hit home with me. And having just turned 23, that made me feel a bit better about my situation. :) Thanks :)
 

Nightspark

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sheep in wolfs clothing.... there's a big difference in looking like a DJ and actually being one...

look i dont think it's the look man... but more or less how your mind is working... i guess what im saying is now it's time to exercise the mind about the DJ material... ok but then reading is one thing than actually practicing what they ask of you!

it's like driving a car. you can read about it all you want, (better yet it's like drifting) but unless you get into the hot seat, you're not a driver. So unless you read the material and apply it, you'll be in the same position as you are right now.... but yeah time to get some confidence dude! and dont worry everyone's f*cked up somehow in their past.... why else would a site like this exist? Here to help !
 

ExZen

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Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
That really hit home with me. And having just turned 23, that made me feel a bit better about my situation. :) Thanks :)
Oh to be 23 again. :)

Life is full of surprises, just maintain
your composure and be strong. A
girl needs that in a guy. Gives 'em
that security they seem to crave for.
(well, at least, those that I know.
There are always exceptions... )

Btw, Belated Happy Birthday!

ExZen
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ExZen

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Originally posted by Nightspark
sheep in wolfs clothing.... there's a big difference in looking like a DJ and actually being one...
I agree. It's one thing to as they say,
"Talk the talk" but you need to
"Walk the walk" to prove it.

Learning life is the best experience.
Hell, it hurts like the smeggings, but
whatever doesn't kill you, will make
you stronger. :)

Nice advice, Nightspark.

ExZen
 
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