"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desdinova

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I saw my ex-wife today and she looks very pregnant. I have not been informed about this change coming in my child's life. I'm only guessing that she's hoping people will see it as gaining weight. I've been guessing that she was pregnant for a while, but it's become pretty evident now.

We have a child together, and she's most definitely not the world's greatest parent. She has a lot of trouble with our child's behavior when he's at her place (I generally have no trouble). My guess is it's only going to get worse with a new baby in the picture.

Has anybody had this happen? I'm really messed up with thoughts as to what's going to happen after this baby is born.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Strelok

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I saw a similar case however the problem was not so much the mother but her new boyfriend and his preference.
Is she a single mom or she has a man?
 

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She's still with the guy she fvcked while we were married, but I have no clue if this child would actually be his or not. If she fvcked around on me, she'll fvck around on him.
 

Die Hard

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I have no clue what your ex-wife is like. All I know is my whole life has pretty much been a hell because of my mother and I blame my father for not saving me from my mother when I was a child.
 

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Anything you can do to use that against her, such as full custody of your child? And I wouldn't let her or her bf come close to my child if that ever happened to me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SecondHalf

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Same thing happening / happened to me.
Same behavior patterns with my son too.

I have him full time now and ... saved his life.
If your child is 12 or over, usually a court of law will let him choose.
How old is your son?

SH
 

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It's not your seed, so its not your problem how her kid with the next dude turns out. Just worry about whats yours.
 

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my theory is that the with the new baby she will concentrate less on your son .... and she will be broke..... so if you have to fight for something in court, take advantage of the oppurtunity of being able to afford a better attorney if it comes to that.
however, my hope is that she will become a better parent to your son no matter if she has a new baby or not... because he deserves that.
regardless, he has a wonderful father who will always be there to give him the proper love and guidance.
 

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DES, how funny would it be to suggest to this guy that he get a paternity test after the birth?
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
DES, how funny would it be to suggest to this guy that he get a paternity test after the birth?
When I found out she was cheating with him, I was tempted to get one-on-one with him and casually mention that my herpes were acting up again
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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