Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Desdinova

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I saw my ex-wife today and she looks very pregnant. I have not been informed about this change coming in my child's life. I'm only guessing that she's hoping people will see it as gaining weight. I've been guessing that she was pregnant for a while, but it's become pretty evident now.

We have a child together, and she's most definitely not the world's greatest parent. She has a lot of trouble with our child's behavior when he's at her place (I generally have no trouble). My guess is it's only going to get worse with a new baby in the picture.

Has anybody had this happen? I'm really messed up with thoughts as to what's going to happen after this baby is born.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I saw a similar case however the problem was not so much the mother but her new boyfriend and his preference.
Is she a single mom or she has a man?
 

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She's still with the guy she fvcked while we were married, but I have no clue if this child would actually be his or not. If she fvcked around on me, she'll fvck around on him.
 

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I have no clue what your ex-wife is like. All I know is my whole life has pretty much been a hell because of my mother and I blame my father for not saving me from my mother when I was a child.
 

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Anything you can do to use that against her, such as full custody of your child? And I wouldn't let her or her bf come close to my child if that ever happened to me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Same thing happening / happened to me.
Same behavior patterns with my son too.

I have him full time now and ... saved his life.
If your child is 12 or over, usually a court of law will let him choose.
How old is your son?

SH
 

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It's not your seed, so its not your problem how her kid with the next dude turns out. Just worry about whats yours.
 

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my theory is that the with the new baby she will concentrate less on your son .... and she will be broke..... so if you have to fight for something in court, take advantage of the oppurtunity of being able to afford a better attorney if it comes to that.
however, my hope is that she will become a better parent to your son no matter if she has a new baby or not... because he deserves that.
regardless, he has a wonderful father who will always be there to give him the proper love and guidance.
 

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DES, how funny would it be to suggest to this guy that he get a paternity test after the birth?
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
DES, how funny would it be to suggest to this guy that he get a paternity test after the birth?
When I found out she was cheating with him, I was tempted to get one-on-one with him and casually mention that my herpes were acting up again
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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