“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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hey im back, ill write up soon
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I gotta read through and say something about my holiday which was a bit of a disappointment for me in myself even though i managed to go running.

Well, anyway i went out last night with my friends, we started off in an old man's pub, i was there drinking before most of them came, i talked them into walking (lazy son of a *****s) down to another slightly more trendy pub, where there is more often totty. Anyway four of them got a lift down and then left to go to a cashpoint as me and my other m8s entered. They warned me about these two girls sitting a couple of tables away. Walked in, got good EC with the better looking of the two birds, she followed me with her eyes as i walked round to my table. I was scoping the rest of the pub looking for talent. I thought oh well lets just go and get comfortable before approaching, went and got drinks.

This was a big mistake, i knew i should really put the three second rule into practice because i always settle down first and then it looks like i gotta work up confidence to approach her. Anyway, my other m8s came back and one of them decided he was gonna buy the girls drinks, so he offered to get some food for us. We said yeah and he went to get it, (me thinking oh **** i should have gone), but he ignored them and got us some more food and himself some liquid refreshment.

Then they decided oh yeah we all have to go over and speak the girls, trying to sort out who got which one (i reckon theyd have to be quite lucky to score with one of them), but anyway again i was thinking oh ****, better get a move on as it was like 8:2 ratio (they were the only two unattached females there, about a 8.5and a 7.5 and 6 years older than me). Stood up, went out past my friends and the ****in girls walked off leaving a half empty glass on the table. I thought, crap theyv gone to the toilet, now ill have to wait and then the 8.5 turned around, looked at me and walked out hte door. I started to move and follow her but my m8s wernt getting out hte way. She got into her friends car, but before she went in turned around and looked straight back in at me. I gave a cheeky smile and a big wave, she waved back, got in the car and drove off.

What did i learn: approach her straight away again, i always make this mistake, i wait too long. And there wass obvious signs of interest, she kept looking at me. Fu(k Fu(K Fu(K.

I also felt confident as i was nicely dressed, nice shirt and everything but teamed with Jeans. So i was smarter than my m8s but still didnt look like i was peacocking. I gotta wear shirts more often when i go out. :D It felt good, especially as i didnt think i looked like the townies who were all dolled up.
 

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Im in a bad way, ill be back when i get everything slightly mroe together although i am on the way to that (my homework is beign done on time.)

I got stuff to tell you and to do now, ill write up my adventures later. I had fun but im real depressed now.

Hopefully back soon

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yey, i gotta be quick but im back and had real good game recently. I got four girls on tenterhooks, including one who i just picked up basically by osmosis. Through my improvement she liked me and came to me (at school). She rejected me for a date on friday but then rearranged so im cool specially as i gave her like half an hours notice and it was her best friends birthday. I coulda tagged along but i had promised to go out with my m8s.

Im good, keep on learning and improving boys. If who i used to be can succeed with girls then so can you. Oh yeah, someone remind me to talk about how bad i used to be. That will give me a huge rush.

Night, its fvckin l8 here.
 

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Lol, what is it with me being so disorganised, i promise to come back at some stage more seriously. Ill update u in detail once this damned UCAS application is done (probably by around 2 mins b4 the school deadline 2morro).

Im disappointed no ones nagged me to keep this up but i appreciate the PMs and emails, i dont mind helping :) but not on stupid stuff. (Guitarfreakelite)

Anyway, im on an absolute high now, i passed my driving theory test and got this girls number after my friend ****blocked me last night. Damned thing is this weekend we are both supremely busy, ah well, thats life, if i want a girl with passions, her passions and school trips take priority. The sweet thing is that i still have 2 other girls on the back burner.

However, as smooth as my game sometimes is at the moment, i really fumbled today when i was asking if she was free on the weekend and then for her phone number. Im sure externaly i was composed and cool (my m8s say even when im sh1tting myself they cant tell, unless i chicken out) and i didnt feel like i was tremoring or anything weirdly crazy. But, i dont know why, i wanted this girl so bad, just because of her personality, something i wouldnt have cared about 1/2 a yr ago. Its crazy how much we change over such a time period. Anyway, even super cool, collected, calm, attractive, ****y me was scared about this one girl (probably only a 7 in looks), especially as i thought shed just walked in the other direction as was like oh well, iv missed that, and then bumped straight into her.

Harold Lasswell “Who gets what, when, how” (sorry i just think it is an awesome quote in terms of a society and couldnt resist adding it)

I just love life
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pretty much standard for these things, i have not updated it in such a long time. But anyway i am having such a good time at the moment, i wish school had permanently been like it. CONFIDENCE is the key, i have picked up my choice of my pick ups and just got rid of the rest of the numbers over the weekend (i kept having to choose between 2 friends, never a gd sign). But anyway, even my closest brother has twigged that i have massive social proof.

I just wanted to say to all those of you out there who are about to give up, don't, just try hard to be the person you want to be. Be confident and dont be scared of doing waht you want to, my friends still think im rude when i slap girls arses, but they are the ones that fancy me a couple of weeks later. There are still things that i want to improve on, lose a little weight, its hiding most of my muscle, but confidence has given me such a boost.
 

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good job man. you sound a lot more confident; like things are going your way. keep it up! that attitude alone is gold
 

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Its something that i want to get across to others, confidence is the best tonic ever. I am rejecting people who rejected me now, its liberating. Even better, i meet girls and friends later tell me about how they fancy me. There was one girl, whose mother came to take pictures for a painting, and therefore was at my house for about an hour. She goes to a mixed school. Then like two days later, i was asked if i knew her, by a younger girl in my school, who then informed me that this girl fancied me.

Another girl who i knew when i was little (my younger bro {one yr below} was always better with them) I saw walking down the street and said hi. Spoke 2 her once, invited her into my house, then her m8 the next day was asking my m8s who i was. As she fancied me.

And once u have one success, it breeds success.
 

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Catch - up

Man, i gotta keep this up, although i also have a blog, if you want the address, PM me.

Before my half term, I managed to finally make out with the girl who put me on the path to self improvement. I felt quite awkward as she is more experianced than me, but still. Then i repeated it a week later. However, she reawakened old feelings in me, so i slightly relapsed and told some of my new prospects that i was kinda together with someone else. Then i asked her out and she basically rejected me. But, immediately that night i started some damage control limitation and got this gal (who i get presents for) to open up and apologise for playing around with her feelings. Met her 3 times now (2wice with loads of other people) and still have not managed a kiss. COME ON. Anyway getting ahead of myself.

Over the holidays i visited America with my school, this involved going to New York, which is awesome. I also brought back presents (i was really dubious about it) for one of the girls that i had picked up as it was her birthday while I was away. I got her two I (heart) NY T shirts, could not think of what else to get her and thats what random girls reccomended. The trip gave me some success, especially when i picked up a woman (about 23) when i went ice skating. However, she said she visits london and might come over to visit her friends, i should really have got her number/email and told her to come and visit. I felt a little akward though as i had told her my real age, 6 years younger. But basically the whole trip gave my confidence a boost. Especially when all these girls from england kept ringing/texting me asking me to meet up with them on dates and stuff.

That was really exciting, when i got back, gave the gal her bday presents, but still did not kiss her (number three meet up), i have to move faster.

Back at school, i have been more of an arsehole, although as multiple girls have said "you are a true romantic, when you are on your own".

I also reinforced some important lessons through personal experiance, there was a girl who i used to be really into me and her body language and behaviour said she was, but her words negated that. So guess what, i found out that she had been waiting for ages for me to ask her on a date and i hadnt. She has a BF now, and was contemplating dumping him for me, but i was firm and said she would have no chance if she did that (im not hurting some poor boy).

Yesterday was a really **** day for me and i am still slightly depressed, basically both her, my primary target and a secondary target said that they would come with me to fireworks and both could not get out of other things. I have exam clashes and have to restart preparing for resits, so in terms of academia it was not too good either. Last night was really depressing, i could not arrange to go out with my friends ( i then missed a possible lift), and could not go as they left where they were (they live far away). I then phoned up someone who i had counted as a good m8, but surprisingly the last couple of times when i had phoned, he had "been cut off" and then his phone was switched off.

Basically he said yeah he was free, asked who i was (ie deleted my number off his cell), i told him and he then hung up. I texted him like what the fu(k. He told me to take a fu(king hint (which i had, hence not trying to meet up for half a year). I then asked what i had done, mysteriously no reply. I think it might be to do with his gf, who i get on ok with but who occasionally is really b1tchy and horrible. Fu(kin hell, i set the two of them up.

Slight consolation last night, i got texted back by a girl (who i have never met) that i picked up over the internet, i would say around an 8 (from her pics), in the year above me. Who used to be really obsessed with me, but who kinda cut me off, when i didnt meet up with her. It seems minor, but it cheered me up as we had a nice conversation.

Today i have managed to annoy my parents over minor things, which stresses me even more and i have not started my work.

What i have learnt: just seize the moment
seize it and go for the kiss
seize it and ask her out
seize it and get her number

The number of times i have talked to people afterwards and they were puzzled why i did not kiss/progress further/ask them out (purely because i was too scared/gentlemanly/conditioned that it is rude) and they commented that it really hurt them.

I am going to go for it tonight, with my number 4 target, who will automatically be where i am going ( i checked) and maybe my number 3, if i see her (but she is ill).

CARPE - seize it

Carpe Diem
 

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Well, nothing happened, apart from me pickign up yet another girl and laying the groundwork with some more. I have no problem gettting interested girls and their numbers, its just translating them into dates and actual action where i suck.

Go on son. Oh yeah and my life in terms or work and relationships with my m8s is pretty screwed. Almost a reversal of Cloud-Uks
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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**** man, why is it that when you sort one thing out something else slips away? Argh...

Do you find that getting a girl's number is easy, but then actually going out with her to a bar or something just doesn't seem to happen? I always find that I'm busy, or they are, and it just trails off. Damn annoying.

Seriously though, my mates absolutely rock at the moment. We're all good blokes, but it's the way we all push each other to get out there and work out, pull girls, pass tests or whatever is needed that is great. I hope you can sort out that area of your life, I never knew it was so great until this year.

Good to hear at least one of us is still macking strong!
 

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yeah, it is a huge improvement on how it used to be, i guess im a little spoilt as we all were so close at the beginning of this year and now we are beginning to drift apart. I think i actually have some of the best friends, the most intelligent and likeable people in my school but some of them are the most misunderstood.

Well, im definately meeting up with some girls this weekend.
 

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Today was good; finished chasing up my teachers for cover sheets for the work that i have to send off to Oxford. For more info: see my rehab post.

@Cloud-Uk - what universities did you end up applying for and keep me updated as you recieve offers. I still have no word from any university. I applied for PPE at Oxford, Durham, York, Warwick, Exeter and Manchester.

good night
 

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Well i have an offer from York of AAB. Which is good. I have a lot of work which is bad.

Last night at a party that i went to i left with two numbers and I pulled a girl and got her number as well.

My healthy eating strategy was pretty much screwed by eating lots of sausage rolls and sausages after i left the party on my walk back with my friends.

But i am kinda grounded as i have so much work to do.
 

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fun, fun; i spent two hours on the phone to this girl and do you know what, it feels liberating. I also have to learn how to shut up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've applied for psychology and philosophy at Oxford, Nottingham, Durham, York, Exeter and Leicester, so pretty similar! I havent had any offers yet :( . Not a peep from anyone- though I managed to tick the "criminal convictions" box on the UCAS form. Very stupid- so I had to clear all that up. Might delay it a bit.

I wish I'd get some word back...

Good luck with keeping the food in check. I should get the weight gaining started I guess... Ah well- fry up time (heh heh sorry:p )

Keep us informed with your Uni stuff!
 

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I thought i could take a break from revisin/preparin for my AS resits in order to tell you lot about my fascinating life.

Got yet another girls number yesterday (but my kind of getting numbers involves spending time with them and establishing lots of interest first).

Just thought id share what some girl said when she was asked to describe me in five words: funny, engaging, confusing,cute, handsome. Lol; i also found out that when i whisper it really (and i mean really) turns girls on.

Im on the phone now chattin to some bird, im in demand, i love this so much. I also like my new nickname; ****a.

Im so contrarian that it winds girls up and they fall in love with me.
 

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Damn man, i h8 blue balls. Fu*king periods; she kept me out. But at least shell come back for more, wouldnt let me go near, so i made her *** through her jeans. Then the h0e (o the irony of that statement) wouldnt go down on me.

But anyway all is good. I have an oxford interview on sunday
 

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Well i went and chatted up a girl at a swimming gala, which impressed myself as she kept looking over at me while i was with my m8s, but i couldnt be bothered. I did not get the number as there was no real way; i was soaking wet and my phone and pens were locked away.

She liked me though, she was quite confident (probably came to being dressed and at her school, in a comfort zone) whereas i was in little speedo swimming trunks. Which i hate but have to wear for tournaments. Then she offered me our 'special prizes', i know i should have made a play on that, but i felt awkward in little swimming trunks and we were on the side of the pool in front of everyone. Ahh well, grabbed my balls and went for it :)
 

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lol, its interesting, all the girls who are interested in my love life (out of school) when i am at school are the ones who i tagged as having very high interest in me. No new approaches, damn me, im getting lazy, albeit dont have much time or opportunity currently. But i should be working for it, im gonna pull at this party im going to on saturday.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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