"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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my inconsistent behaviour..weak inner game?

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what can i do about my inconsistent behaviour

there are days when i would be all fired up, c&f through the roof, suave, and everything comes to me natrually,

but there are also days when i don't feel as confident, and in order to disguise my weakness i keep a cold face and no facial expressions, give off little or no reactions, and usually this scares off girls with high interest levels

but then again i suppose it is better to be a statue than a needy whimpering afc.

any suggestions?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

The Bad Ass Canadian

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As you work on your inner game, your moods will fluctuate a bit. You need to keep bettering yourself and revamping your personality. It will take time for the new you to "stick" but eventually, the days where your confidence is down will be few and far between.. but remember, you're human; We all have days like that at some point.
It's all about connecting with that deep seeded belief system and sense of self and once you tap into that part, permanently, you'll be forever a changed man. It takes time. Years, even.

Go read my thread about comfort Zones in the tips section; that one deals with this kind of growth and taking small steps to accomplish it is the only way to permamnently change yourself so that you don't bounce back to your old self.
 
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