My girlfriend and I have been happily together for 4 months now and everything was going well. She had BHD and often times would cancelled plans at last minute. According to her friends she really liked me when we were together. On Sunday she asked me to do something on Tuesday and so we made plans to go to lunch. On monday she came to school and seemed fine greeting me and she was wearing the ring I had given her for her birthday. It felt like a normal day and like nothing was wrong. On Tuesday I Saw her and she didn't really want to hug me. I walked with her a little and she didn't want to hold my hand Ian's I noticed she wasn't wearing the ring I gave her. I walked her I class and I went to mine wondering what was wrong. After school I went to where we had agreed to meet and she was there. She then told me she was "too overwhelmed for a relationship" and told me it wasn't working out. I saw her the next day in the hills and I said go to be polite and smiled but she just stated at me and then looked away. Her friends told me that night that she must have decided to do me that night because she still wanted to be with me the day before. I really like her and I want to be with her again. Why should I do?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My girlfriend with BHD dumped me how can i get back with her?
- Thread starter Nealr
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
This sounds like a really fulfilling relationship.
I hope you get her back! She sounds like a keeper!
Have you tried sending flowers and teddy bears?
I hope you get her back! She sounds like a keeper!
Have you tried sending flowers and teddy bears?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
loveshogun
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Trick to getting back together with your type of girl:
1) Bend over
2) Lower pantaloons
3) Spread cheeks
4) Lube optional
She's obviously the man in the relationship, because any man in your position would leave. But, you're 15. So, I say take it for as long as you can... kind of like that scene in Fight Club where Tyler burns the narrator's hand, just to see if he can take it.
You'll come out stronger, with lots of neuroses about women. And probably a misogynist, too.
1) Bend over
2) Lower pantaloons
3) Spread cheeks
4) Lube optional
She's obviously the man in the relationship, because any man in your position would leave. But, you're 15. So, I say take it for as long as you can... kind of like that scene in Fight Club where Tyler burns the narrator's hand, just to see if he can take it.
You'll come out stronger, with lots of neuroses about women. And probably a misogynist, too.
loveshogun
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Also, work on your basic spelling and grammar. People are mean on the internet and will treat you like a retard if you give 'em a chance.
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By the way, Nealr, since you're being such a good sport about me and Iceberg taking advantage of your shortcomings, I just want to assure you that Iceberg was being sarcastic about the flowers and teddy bears. Don't send those. Save your money for college, where you can buy a beer for a very nice girl who might actually touch your weenus.Nealr said:
Instead, work on being a 15 year old and stop being so damn worried about having a "girlfriend." Maybe play some sports or get into a good college or something, I dunno. I haven't been 15 for a little while, so I don't know what's hip anymore.
Whining about your non-relationship, however, has never been, and never will be, cool.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Iceberg
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Heh. You're right...I was being a bit of a jerk.loveshogun said:
It's just hard to be nice to a guy who identifies his woman as having some type of personality disorder, and follows it up by asking how to get her back.
Anyone who has read this site for more than 5 minutes can tell that we're not about that. This is not the "Advice on keeping your crappy girlfriend" site.
The general rule is, anyone who mistreats you or doesn't appreciate the generosity you show by sharing your life with them, needs to be removed from your life. You don't win them back. You win by leaving them behind you.
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We've been on this site too long, Iceberg. We've seen too much. We're becoming bitter men, not because of women, but because of other, lesser men.Iceberg said:
Oh, the hubris...
