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My girlfriend with BHD dumped me how can i get back with her?

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My girlfriend and I have been happily together for 4 months now and everything was going well. She had BHD and often times would cancelled plans at last minute. According to her friends she really liked me when we were together. On Sunday she asked me to do something on Tuesday and so we made plans to go to lunch. On monday she came to school and seemed fine greeting me and she was wearing the ring I had given her for her birthday. It felt like a normal day and like nothing was wrong. On Tuesday I Saw her and she didn't really want to hug me. I walked with her a little and she didn't want to hold my hand Ian's I noticed she wasn't wearing the ring I gave her. I walked her I class and I went to mine wondering what was wrong. After school I went to where we had agreed to meet and she was there. She then told me she was "too overwhelmed for a relationship" and told me it wasn't working out. I saw her the next day in the hills and I said go to be polite and smiled but she just stated at me and then looked away. Her friends told me that night that she must have decided to do me that night because she still wanted to be with me the day before. I really like her and I want to be with her again. Why should I do?
 

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The more you worry the worse is going to get. Try to let it go and she will come back to you sooner or later, if you don't push.
 

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I'm 15. And are you sure about her coming back all by herself? Should I talk to her?
 

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This sounds like a really fulfilling relationship.

I hope you get her back! She sounds like a keeper!

Have you tried sending flowers and teddy bears?
 

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That sounds like a good idea. But she dumped me and it wasn't because of an argument it was out of the blue.
 

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Trick to getting back together with your type of girl:

1) Bend over
2) Lower pantaloons
3) Spread cheeks
4) Lube optional

She's obviously the man in the relationship, because any man in your position would leave. But, you're 15. So, I say take it for as long as you can... kind of like that scene in Fight Club where Tyler burns the narrator's hand, just to see if he can take it.

You'll come out stronger, with lots of neuroses about women. And probably a misogynist, too.
 

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Also, work on your basic spelling and grammar. People are mean on the internet and will treat you like a retard if you give 'em a chance.
 

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Yeah sorry for my grammar I typed this in my iPod so it's not ideal for typing. Thanks for the advice.
 

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Nealr said:
Yeah sorry for my grammar I typed this in my iPod so it's not ideal for typing. Thanks for the advice.
By the way, Nealr, since you're being such a good sport about me and Iceberg taking advantage of your shortcomings, I just want to assure you that Iceberg was being sarcastic about the flowers and teddy bears. Don't send those. Save your money for college, where you can buy a beer for a very nice girl who might actually touch your weenus.

Instead, work on being a 15 year old and stop being so damn worried about having a "girlfriend." Maybe play some sports or get into a good college or something, I dunno. I haven't been 15 for a little while, so I don't know what's hip anymore.

Whining about your non-relationship, however, has never been, and never will be, cool.
 
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loveshogun said:
By the way, Nealr, since you're being such a good sport about me and Iceberg taking advantage of your shortcomings, I just want to assure you that Iceberg was being sarcastic about the flowers and teddy bears. Don't send those. Save your money for college, where you can buy a beer for a very girl who might actually touch your weenus.

Instead, work on being a 15 year old and stop being so damn worried about having a "girlfriend." Maybe play some sports or get into a good college or something, I dunno. I haven't been 15 for a little while, so I don't know what's hip anymore.

Whining about your non-relationship, however, has never been, and never will be, cool.
Heh. You're right...I was being a bit of a jerk.

It's just hard to be nice to a guy who identifies his woman as having some type of personality disorder, and follows it up by asking how to get her back.

Anyone who has read this site for more than 5 minutes can tell that we're not about that. This is not the "Advice on keeping your crappy girlfriend" site.

The general rule is, anyone who mistreats you or doesn't appreciate the generosity you show by sharing your life with them, needs to be removed from your life. You don't win them back. You win by leaving them behind you.
 

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Iceberg said:
Heh. You're right...I was being a bit of a jerk.

It's just hard to be nice to a guy who identifies his woman as having some type of personality disorder, and follows it up by asking how to get her back.

Anyone who has read this site for more than 5 minutes can tell that we're not about that. This is not the "Advice on keeping your crappy girlfriend" site.

The general rule is, anyone who mistreats you or doesn't appreciate the generosity you show by sharing your life with them, needs to be removed from your life. You don't win them back. You win by leaving them behind you.
We've been on this site too long, Iceberg. We've seen too much. We're becoming bitter men, not because of women, but because of other, lesser men.

Oh, the hubris...
 
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