Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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my girlfriend wants a nickname

metalfan20

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this kind of embressing to ask for help on this subject but it's hard she wants meaning behind and i have writers block you could sort of say.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BlakeW5

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Think of an inside joke between the two of you or something.

Example: This chick I've been seeing and I were out playing around on a playground (actually very fun, try it sometime). Well, we end up curled up in the slide, which was a full tube, making out. I was laying down in it and she was all contorted. Anyway, during the making out I licked her on the side of the face and she tasted salty (we'd been sweating from running around). So naturally I say, "You taste kinda salty.... I'm calling you Pretzel from now on" because she was twisted up in the slide and she tasted salty. Naturally she loved it, and now it's our little "inside thing".

Try to think back to something like that. If you've got nothing, make one happen
 

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hehe, no need to be embaressed or anything mate...

What's her name? My gf's name is Helen so I just call her stupid things like helenypops, helsypops etc...haha

there's the generic pet names as well, sweetie, babe, sexy etc.

Bit of info about her etc?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Smack

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shaunuk said:
hehe, no need to be embaressed or anything mate...

What's her name? My gf's name is Helen so I just call her stupid things like helenypops, helsypops etc...haha

there's the generic pet names as well, sweetie, babe, sexy etc.

Bit of info about her etc?
You should have called her Helen of Troy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jafyk

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Metal fan, I think some names are hard to come up with nicknames for . I mean what would you call a girl named Helen? Hel? or a girl called Darlene... darling? Find something about her and give her a nickname. Like my last gf I called her Friz because she had curly frizzy hair. I also called her a Lone Knight rider cos she rode me far into the night, lol.
 

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BlakeW5 said:
Think of an inside joke between the two of you or something.

Example: This chick I've been seeing and I were out playing around on a playground (actually very fun, try it sometime). Well, we end up curled up in the slide, which was a full tube, making out. I was laying down in it and she was all contorted. Anyway, during the making out I licked her on the side of the face and she tasted salty (we'd been sweating from running around). So naturally I say, "You taste kinda salty.... I'm calling you Pretzel from now on" because she was twisted up in the slide and she tasted salty. Naturally she loved it, and now it's our little "inside thing".

Try to think back to something like that. If you've got nothing, make one happen
Best advice posted. Think of an inside joke between the two of you, and go from there. Does she look/remind you of anything?

In the past, I gave the nickname "schmoopie" to a girl. Somehow the discussion of boogers came up (dont ask) and when she was little, she called them schmoopies.. ever since than, that was her nickname.

Avoid nicknames such as: Princess, baby, beautiful. Completely wh*red up. Think of something original, not to sweet.
In high school, avoid the nicknames b*tch, c*ntface, etc because girls in HS tend to be insecure. The last thing you want is to spark up a fight on such a small, avoidable thing. Notice how the nickname I gave was not too sweet, yet it wasn't as offensive as the other ones posted in this thread? That's the kind of nickname you should be looking for.

Hope I helped,
Axcell.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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metalfan20

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her name is erin. don't worry I've got this one under control now. thanks for the help anyways.
 
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