"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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my girlfriend wants a nickname

metalfan20

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this kind of embressing to ask for help on this subject but it's hard she wants meaning behind and i have writers block you could sort of say.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BlakeW5

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Think of an inside joke between the two of you or something.

Example: This chick I've been seeing and I were out playing around on a playground (actually very fun, try it sometime). Well, we end up curled up in the slide, which was a full tube, making out. I was laying down in it and she was all contorted. Anyway, during the making out I licked her on the side of the face and she tasted salty (we'd been sweating from running around). So naturally I say, "You taste kinda salty.... I'm calling you Pretzel from now on" because she was twisted up in the slide and she tasted salty. Naturally she loved it, and now it's our little "inside thing".

Try to think back to something like that. If you've got nothing, make one happen
 

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hehe, no need to be embaressed or anything mate...

What's her name? My gf's name is Helen so I just call her stupid things like helenypops, helsypops etc...haha

there's the generic pet names as well, sweetie, babe, sexy etc.

Bit of info about her etc?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Smack

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shaunuk said:
hehe, no need to be embaressed or anything mate...

What's her name? My gf's name is Helen so I just call her stupid things like helenypops, helsypops etc...haha

there's the generic pet names as well, sweetie, babe, sexy etc.

Bit of info about her etc?
You should have called her Helen of Troy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jafyk

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Metal fan, I think some names are hard to come up with nicknames for . I mean what would you call a girl named Helen? Hel? or a girl called Darlene... darling? Find something about her and give her a nickname. Like my last gf I called her Friz because she had curly frizzy hair. I also called her a Lone Knight rider cos she rode me far into the night, lol.
 

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BlakeW5 said:
Think of an inside joke between the two of you or something.

Example: This chick I've been seeing and I were out playing around on a playground (actually very fun, try it sometime). Well, we end up curled up in the slide, which was a full tube, making out. I was laying down in it and she was all contorted. Anyway, during the making out I licked her on the side of the face and she tasted salty (we'd been sweating from running around). So naturally I say, "You taste kinda salty.... I'm calling you Pretzel from now on" because she was twisted up in the slide and she tasted salty. Naturally she loved it, and now it's our little "inside thing".

Try to think back to something like that. If you've got nothing, make one happen
Best advice posted. Think of an inside joke between the two of you, and go from there. Does she look/remind you of anything?

In the past, I gave the nickname "schmoopie" to a girl. Somehow the discussion of boogers came up (dont ask) and when she was little, she called them schmoopies.. ever since than, that was her nickname.

Avoid nicknames such as: Princess, baby, beautiful. Completely wh*red up. Think of something original, not to sweet.
In high school, avoid the nicknames b*tch, c*ntface, etc because girls in HS tend to be insecure. The last thing you want is to spark up a fight on such a small, avoidable thing. Notice how the nickname I gave was not too sweet, yet it wasn't as offensive as the other ones posted in this thread? That's the kind of nickname you should be looking for.

Hope I helped,
Axcell.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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her name is erin. don't worry I've got this one under control now. thanks for the help anyways.
 
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